Why You Should NEVER Forgive a Cheating Husband
Can you tell me why you should never forgive a cheating husband? If he’s cheated once, he’s far more likely to cheat again. He says he won’t. He said he wouldn’t cheat when he promised to have and to hold, to love and to obey. Women say they’re supposed to obey. For modern guys, it ought to be the other way around. But let’s be honest, if you caught him, he may have cheated more than once. I wonder what I’m supposed to do.
Get tested for STDs, make him get tested for STDs, and make sure you don’t have sex until both of you come back clean. That’s going to be an embarrassing O.B.G.Y.N. visit. Not as bad as it would be finding out your husband is cheating because the OBGYN diagnoses you with an STD. He says guys sometimes wander, and that I should accept his apologies. At least he didn’t say it was your fault for not being hot enough in bed. But if he’s excusing it, you’re making a mistake by excusing it.
I do not want to get a divorce. Women divorce guys for violating their trust and falling out of love. He violated your trust and made love to someone else. I’m devastated, but I’ve heard we could heal. You’ll always be wondering if he’s having a late night meeting at work or with a floozy. You’ll always worry if he’s travelling for work or for pleasure. Don’t all marriages have trust issues? Unless it is an arranged marriage, it shouldn’t. Financial problems, that’s normal.
He’s quoting Bible verses about how I need to be forgiving. Will you let him escalate to Bible verses on beating his wife? Or polygamy? No way. Leave him now while you’re young enough to find someone else and start over, since he already did. And leave before he spends more of your money on another woman.
He CHEATED on Me should I forgive him
My ex husband cheated on me a million times. Well, not really a million but 15. that I knew about. So it’s probably more like 80. I’m Danielle Ford, the founder of YoungMomsClub and a victim of chronic cheating. If you’ve been a victim as well and you’re wondering if you should forgive him or not, then you need to watch this tutorial cause I’m gonna make the answer really easy for you to figure out. Every single time I caught my husband cheating, it would be the same story. â€œI don’t know why I did it. I’m just dumb. She means nothing to me. You’re the only one I love.â€� Blah.
Blah Blah Blah Blah. I grew up in split homes. My parents got divorced when I was like 2 weeks old. So ever since I was a little girl I knew that I wanted to get married and have a family and never ever get divorced. I also grew up very Christian, went to a private Christian school and I knew that Divorce was the devil. Because I was determined not to get divorced, I tried everything I could think of to make it work from marriage counseling, to threatening him and I even considered just accepting that he would just cheat on me forever and that’s just how my life would be.
After over a year of trying to get him to stop cheating on me, unsuccessfully, I knew that nothing was going to work, he wasn’t going to change and I ended up leaving him and filing for divorce. Thank God. For me, the right decision was divorce but that doesn’t mean that it’s right for everyone or that there’s no way to get past cheating. If you’re in a situation where you are trying to decide whether to forgive him or end the relationship after cheating, then there are 3 questions that you need to answer really honestly. You only need to answer them to yourself.
The first question is: If you chose to forgive him, would you actually be able to let it go? That means actually forgiving him, not throwing it in his face when you’re upset, not freaking out when he goes out, not wondering whether he’s with another girl or not. There’s no wrong answer to this. It has nothing to do with your maturity level or how much you love him or anything like that, it’s just yes or no. Could you completely let it go? If the answer is no, then stop right here. Take the advice from a girl who used to check his cell phone, every single pocket in his clothes, search his car for evidence, drive.
Past his work to make sure his car was there. it fucking sucks. That is just no way to live, it’s miserable. I promised myself after that experience that if I ever felt like I needed to check pockets or drive by someone’s work, it would be done. The second question to ask yourself when deciding to forgive someone after cheating is: If it were to happen again, would it completely destroy you? Again, no wrong answer. If you were able to let it go and forgive him and then he cheated again. could you handle it?.
If you know that you’re strong enough to not take it personally and just know that he’s an idiot and it’s his loss if it happens again, and you answered yes to question number one, then it’s probably worth another shot. But if you know that it would destroy you if he cheats again, especially after working so hard to let it go, then you shouldn’t take the chance. It’s not worth losing yourself over. After his last affair, I realized that I couldn’t handle it if it happened again. I was so depressed and I felt like there must be something wrong with me or something that he wants that I.
Don’t have and it was destroying my self esteem. There was just no way I could try again. The final question that you need to ask yourself. and then find out for sure. is: Is there something that can be fixed or change so that it won’t happen again? If cheating is happening then there’s something wrong. And I don’t mean wrong with you. this is all him. But there needs to be a reason why he cheated. You might know what it is, but he actually needs to say it. If he doesn’t know, he needs to really spend some time figuring it.