Hi guys, brad browning here with another tutorial about breakups and relationships this time Im going to talk about why breakups happen, and Ill explain four of the most common things that cause relationships to fail. For most people watching this tutorial, theres a very good chance that one of these four things Im about to discuss was the main reason behind your breakup. Now, theres one very important thing you need to be aware of before I go any further.
And thats that your ex almost certainly lied to you after your breakup. 99% of the time, person who initiated the breakup will lie about why they want to end things. Sometimes its more of a partial truth than a blatant lie. sometimes its a subconscious lie but, if your ex told you why he or she wanted to break up, I can almost guarantee you that it was a lie, or at the very least only partially true. This is something Ive learned after years of coaching, having worked with thousands.
Of people who are recovering from a breakup. so trust me on this. unless it was something totally obvious that led to your breakup, like your ex walking in on your while you were naked in bed with the office intern, then you probably dont really know why our ex wanted to break up. Granted, the same underlying cause is behind every relationship. and thats a loss of attraction. Your ex lost his or her attraction for you. But the real question, and what your.
Ex almost certainly lied about, is why that attraction faded. Sometimes your ex may not actually know why often times it happens slowly, as a result of several things. Other times, your ex may tell you something was the reason behind his or her decision, but that was only one of several issues. Or sometimes, to avoid hurting you further, your ex will just pick something generic and tell you that was the reason. You know the saying, its not you, its me? Its cheesy and cliche, sure, but.
Its also a great example of something your ex might say to avoid discussing the real reasons behind the breakup. So, what are the real reasons that led to your breakup? I cant say for sure, but Im guessing it was one of these four common attractionkilling traits. Attraction Killer 1: Being needy or clingy. This is a very common trait that many people exhibit in a relationship. Why your partner.
May seem to think its cute, its actually one of the biggest relationship killers. Yes, as weird as it sounds, studies have shown that being that clingy girlfriend or boyfriend is actually a massive, massive turn off. Human beings need a challenge. When something becomes too easy its human nature to just pickup and get going, and this sort of survival mechanism is our way of saying, find a new challenge, Im bored!.
People also hate feeling tied down and get easily frustrated when someone is constantly pestering them or requiring their attention. This toxic trait doesnt just happen to women. men are almost as likely to be guilty of excessive neediness too. If youre not sure what I mean when I say needy or cling, watch the movie Wedding Crashers. its a very funny movie, but theres also a redheaded girl who chases Vince Vaughn around for most of the movie. Shes a perfect example of what.
It means to be clingy. Attraction Killer 2: Being too controlling or jealous. Yes, this is another big reasons why relationships dont work out. Being way too controlling over your partner will actually give you less control in the end. Thats right. Typically, the more controlling one partner gets, the more the other partner will try and break free and eventually when that happens, theres almost no turning back.
Is Your Ex Dating Someone New That Could Help You Win Them Back
If you want to get back together with your ex, but he or she is now dating someone new, then this tutorial is for you. In fact, Im going to tell you how your exs new lover could actually help you win them back in the long run. Im Brad Browning, by the way Im a relationship coach and author of The Ex Factor, a guide that teaches men and women how to rebuild a broken relationship and rekindle things with an ex.
So, i should first say that this tutorial is mainly for those who broke up within the past year or so. The same things may apply if your breakup happened long ago, but thats a topic Ill cover in another tutorial. Lets start by talking about rebounds. In most cases, the new guy or girl your ex is now dating is a rebound. A rebound relationship is essentially just what the name suggests: a quick fix for your.
Ex to get through the sadness and loneliness that they are experiencing in the wake of your breakup. Keep in mind, by the way, that breaking up with someone can actually be even more difficult and gutwrenching than being broken up with. That means that even though your ex may have been the one to initiate the breakup, its highly likely that they are just as heartbroken as you are right now.
So, whats the easiest way to get through the difficult postbreakup emotions and sadness? Occupy your time and keep yourself busy by finding someone new. In all likelihood, if your ex has replaced you with someone new quickly after breaking up with you, then this person is probably just a rebound to help them get over the breakup blues. And believe it or not, this rebound relationship can often be good news for you if you want.
To get back together with your ex. I know what youre thinking right now. youre asking yourself, how the hell can my ex replacing me with some loser help me get them back? Well, the answer is actually fairly simple. First of all, assuming that this new person that your ex is dating is just a rebound relationship some guy or girl that your ex met in a nightclub and hit it off with then its nothing serious. Theyre probably not doing.
Candlelit dinners at fancy italian restaurants theyre just hanging out now and then, relying on the physical side of their relationship to maintain the bond. While it may be painful to hear that your ex is just seeing this new guy / girl for the sex, thats actually a good thing for you. It means that they probably dont have much in common, and they certainly dont have the same kind of bond that you and your ex had.
Most rebound relationships last 35 weeks. while thats certainly not a hard and fast rule, its true for most scenarios. That means that its extremely likely your exs rebound relationship will be over soon. Once the rebound ends, your ex is going to have to face the reality of their situation theyre single, lonely, and they no longer have anyone to keep their mind off of you! While your ex has been delaying this inevitable surge of heartache and loneliness, youve.
Already been dealing with those emotions. your exs rebound just delayed this, and now that the rebound is over, these emotions will surface again. Now that your exs rebound relationship is over, its time to pounce. Because your ex is depressed and lonely and because they just spent a few weeks dating someone who wasnt nearly as compatible as you were youre probably going to start looking like a very good option.