Communication Techniques How To Save Your Marriage
Hi. I’m Bruce Muzik. and welcome to the third tutorial in the series about how to navigate through the treacherous stage of your relationship called quot;The Power Strugglequot; stage. And if you haven’t been watching the previous tutorials the Power Struggle stage happens right after the romance begins to fade away. Usually ends up with one or both partners fighting for power inside the relationship. In this tutorial series we’re taking a look at how to navigate through this Power Struggle stage.
And turn it into an opportunity for deeper intimacy and connection. Create security and a romance that lasts a lifetime. In this tutorial, I’m going to be teaching you a powerful technique. for. how to cool off an argument when it starts spiraling out of control into a fullblown fight. But I feel obliged to issue a warning before I teach you this technique, because this technique is so powerful, that if you practice and master it, what you’ll probably find is the people you use it with.
Will have a habit of falling in love with you. So. use it, very. wisely. Let’s take a look at how a normal conversation can turn into an argument. and then spiral out of control into a fight. I’d like you to think of a good conversation like a good tennis match. .in that there’s two people playing. And there’s a ball that gets hit back across the net. The ball is a metaphor for the conversation or the message that’s being communicated between two people.
Like in any good tennis game, or any good conversation. when you hit the ball across the net the other person hits it back to you. And just like a good conversation; it would be no fun if you hit the ball across the net and the other person didn’t hit it back! In psychological circles. your willingness to hit the ball back is called your RESPONSIVENESS.
It turns out that RESPONSIVENESS is one of THE keys to creating a longterm, romantic relationship that lasts. That is full of intimacy and connection. Let’s take a look at what a responsive conversation may look like. (Woman): quot;Honey I’m so tired. I had an exhausting day at work.quot; (Man): quot;I understand baby.I guess you’re not so excited about cooking tonight, right?quot; (Woman): quot;Yeah, you got that right.quot; (Man): quot;Well, why don’t we get takeout instead and then you don’t have to cook?quot;.
(Woman): quot;Oh! that sounds like a wonderful idea. Maybe we can rent a movie while we’re at it?quot; (Man): quot;Oh yeah, let’s get the one we were talking about the other night.quot; .And the conversation is off to a great start with both partners responding to each other. On the other hand; here’s what unresponsive conversation might look like: (Woman): quot;Honey I’m so tired. I had an exhausting day at work.quot; (Man): quot;Uh Huhquot;.
(Woman): quot;I really don’t feel like cooking tonight.quot; (Man): quot;Well.why don’t you just get take out?quot; (Woman): quot;Well. what do you want?quot; (Man): quot;I don’t know. Choose something for me.quot; (Woman): quot;Oh jeez, you are so indecisive! Do I have to make all the decisions in this marriage?quot; (Man): quot;Uggh! Here we go again. It’s always my fault isn’t it?quot; AND this conversation (on the other hand) is destined to escalate into a fight.
How to Save Your Marriage And Stop Divorce Complete Guide for 2015
Hey, it’s Brad Browning here and I’m a marriage and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. And in this tutorial, I’m going to teach you how to prevent separation or divorce and save your marriage. This is obviously going to be a huge topic and I’m going to cover as much as I can in this tutorial. So sit tight and be sure to watch this entire clip, because I’m going to teach you things that most couples will never know about building a loving marriage. First of all, let me tell you who this tutorial is for. This tutorial is for people whose husband or wife announced that they’re no longer happy in their marriage. You may have heard.
Painful things like, â€œI’m just not happy anymoreâ€�, â€œI don’t love youâ€�, or â€œI’m leaving you.â€� Or, maybe they’ve already left you. No matter the case, I know how extremely difficult, stressful, and heartbreaking this situation isâ€¦ and I know how hopeless you might feel at this very moment. So I’m going to start off this long tutorial by telling you that there IS light at the end of this long tunnel. With the proper guidance, help, and attitude, it is possible to turn your marriage around despite how adamant your spouse may be on divorce. I know this because I’ve seen thousands of so called â€œhopelessâ€� couples turn it around â€“ and I know exactly how they did it.
With that being said, rebuilding a broken marriage is a rocky road. Sometimes, things can get a little worse before they get better, and it takes a lot of devotion on your part to make things better. However, I promise you that if you watch this whole tutorial and follow my advice very closely, you’ll have the best chance possible of rebuilding that marriage you and your spouse deserve. But before I get into what TO do to save your marriage, I first need to tell you about what NOT to do. The vast majority of married couples that I coach commit almost all of these very damaging mistakes. And I know that some of you might be in a situation where your spouse.
Isn’t willing to work on the marriage, but in a minute, I’ll tell you why that’s okay, and why it’s even more important for you to learn these common mistakes before you go down the road of rebuilding a newer, happier marriage. Some of this stuff you may already know, but it’s important to remember these mistakes before you cause any further damage to your marriage â€“ and these are tips that will have an immediate impact on your relationship. I like to call these mistakes my â€œBig Marital Mistakesâ€�. Big Marital Mistakes 1 â€“ Initiating needless conflict with your spouse. When you’re trying.
To fix a broken marriage and you’re feeling desperate, chances are things can spiral out of control very easilyâ€¦ (and I think you know what I’m talking about). You think that if you could just talk to your spouse about all your problems and find common ground, your marriage will magically fix itself and get better. But usually, this isn’t the case. While communicating with your spouse is important in rebuilding a marriage, what your marriage does NOT need right now is another argument or fight. Even if your partner says something antagonizing or wants to bring up a touchy sticky issue at the moment, do your best to.
Avoid conflict politely. Don’t ignore your spouse or discount any of their concerns, but you need to ensure that the discussion doesn’t end up in a screaming match. You can say something along the lines of, â€œI know this is a real concern right now and I want to resolve this issue, but can we discuss this later?â€� Try and be as nonconfrontational as possible â€“ at least for now â€“ until you learn how you can manage how to handle your arguments later. I’ll get to what I call my â€œDispute Defusing Systemâ€� later in this tutorial. If you have any questions or concerns about this common mistake, please be sure to ask questions in the comments section below. I’ll do my.
Very best to get back to you as soon as I can. The second â€œBig Marital Mistakeâ€� is begging and pleading, or being highly emotional. Especially in public. I know that when emotions are running rampant, people tend to say or do things that they’ll inevitably regret. I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about. At certain times, your spouse may say or do things that will make you feel angry, upset, or saddened, you must do your very best to control your emotions. Showing these negative emotions will only make matters worse â€“ and unfortunately, doing so will only help you sign those divorce papers even sooner. So for now, it’s extremely important to try and remain calm and live.