Hi. i’m bruce muzik. and welcome to the third tutorial in the series about how to navigate through the treacherous stage of your relationship called The Power Struggle stage. And if you haven’t been watching the previous tutorials the Power Struggle stage happens right after the romance begins to fade away.
Usually ends up with one or both partners fighting for power inside the relationship. In this tutorial series we’re taking a look at how to navigate through this Power Struggle stage and turn it into an opportunity for deeper intimacy and connection. Create security and a romance that lasts a lifetime. In this tutorial, I’m going to be teaching you a powerful technique. for. how to cool off an argument.
When it starts spiraling out of control into a fullblown fight. But I feel obliged to issue a warning before I teach you this technique, because this technique is so powerful, that if you practice and master it, what you’ll probably find is the people you use it with will have a habit of falling in love with you. So. use it, very. wisely.
Let’s take a look at how a normal conversation can turn into an argument. and then spiral out of control into a fight. I’d like you to think of a good conversation like a good tennis match. .in that there’s two people playing. And there’s a ball that gets hit back across the net. The ball is a metaphor for the conversation or the message that’s being communicated between two people.
Like in any good tennis game, or any good conversation. when you hit the ball across the net the other person hits it back to you. And just like a good conversation; it would be no fun if you hit the ball across the net and the other person didn’t hit it back! In psychological circles.
Your willingness to hit the ball back is called your RESPONSIVENESS. It turns out that RESPONSIVENESS is one of THE keys to creating a longterm, romantic relationship that lasts. That is full of intimacy and connection. Let’s take a look at what a responsive conversation may look like.
(woman): honey i’m so tired. i had an exhausting day at work. (Man): I understand baby.I guess you’re not so excited about cooking tonight, right? (Woman): Yeah, you got that right. (Man): Well, why don’t we get takeout instead and then you don’t have to cook? (Woman): Oh! that sounds like a wonderful idea. Maybe we can rent a movie while we’re at it?.
(man): oh yeah, let’s get the one we were talking about the other night. .And the conversation is off to a great start with both partners responding to each other. On the other hand; here’s what unresponsive conversation might look like: (Woman): Honey I’m so tired. I had an exhausting day at work. (Man): Uh Huh.
Does Marriage Counseling Work The Answer Is Strange
So youve tried to make it work on your own, but no matter what do you it seems like youre marriage just isnt getting better. A friend recommended marriage counselling to you, but you brushed off the idea, thinking that your marriage wasnt that doomed. But now, after months of trying different tips and ideas without results, youre considering giving it a go. But does marriage counselling actually work, or is it just a waste of time and money?.
My name is brad browning, im a marriage coach from vancouver bc, and im also author of a bestselling program called Mend the Marriage. Today I want to talk to you about the ins and outs of marriage counselling, so lets begin with a few common situations. Your partner is ready to end the marriage, but youre not. Youve watched self help tutorials, read the books and even turned to your friends and family for advice. Youre.
At the point where your spouse isnt even speaking to you much anymore, and when you do talk, every conversation ends in a an argument. Or maybe you never argue at all because your spouse doesnt want to talk anymore. You didnt see this coming, and even if you did there was nothing you could do to change their mind. Your situation right now is painful, but you desperately dont want to separate and you truly believe that your marriage can be saved.
Traditionally, couples in crisis are advised to attend marriage counselling or couples therapy. In these sessions the couple would work with a counsellor who creates a safe environment, open for honest discussions about their marriage. Together they look for the root causes of their problems, and may concentrate on improving certain areas of the relationship. These areas include: communication, conflict resolution, forgiveness, trust, commitment, intimacy and others depends on your personal situation. Essentially, the marriage counsellor.
Provides the tools a couple needs to confront their marital issues, and a recovery plan. If these are done properly, it can be helpful. For marriage counselling to work, both spouses must be willing to attend, participate, and work hard on facing your issues. More importantly, they must also both believe that their marriage is salvageable and worth saving. It is sometimes extremely difficult to convince your ex to go down this route.
So before you dump thousands of dollars into marriage counselling, you might want to consider investing in my Mend The Marriage program. This is a program that Ive poured my heart and soul into and it will give you and your spouse get a second chance at lifelong love. In fact, my program has been so wildly successful that it alone has helped save thousands of marriages without marriage counselling. The great thing about it is.you dont need dont need your spouses effort right now and you dont need to wait around for.
A marriage counsellor to help you. if you want to learn more details about my mend the Marriage program, you can watch the free tutorial presentation on my website, MarriageGuy . Again, the URL is MarriageGuy . Alternatively, you can sign up for my personal coaching program. So if youre dead set on getting a personal coach, then please consider me as an option. Ive been a relationship coach for over 10 years and I promise you that my coaching program is much more affordable.
Than the thousands youll be spending on a marriage counsellor. to learn more about my personal coaching program, please visit MarriageGuy /coaching. Again, that URL is MarriageGuy /coaching. But if you think youve exhausted all other possible solutions and youre dead set on hiring a marriage counsellor, then you should ask yourselves the following questions: Are you and your partner willing to change? What is the depth of your marital problems?.