Hi guys, brad browning here with another mend the marriage tutorial. today im going to cover 7 tips that will help save your marriage, even if theres already been talk of a divorce. Now, before we get started Id like to introduce myself in case this is the first time youve come across one of my YouTube tutorials. As mentioned, my name is Brad Browning and Im a relationship coach and marriage expert. Im also known for my best selling Mend the Marriage program, which teaches folks like you how to rebuild your relationship with your spouse, and ideally.
Save your marriage. After watching this tutorial, I encourage you to leave any comments or questions you may have in the section below. I always try my best to respond to all comments, so please go ahead and share your feedback. OK, lets get started. You know the saying, first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes happily ever after? End of story, right? Not quite While it’s true that couples.
Relax a bit after theyve said their vows and tied the knot, the reality is that they may also find themselves puzzled if their fairytale starts slipping away. Many people think that marriage is about marrying the right person, so when things start to go wrong they begin to worry that theyve accidentally married the wrong person. Although you do want to marry someone youre compatible with, marriage has a lot less to do with marrying the right person than it has to do with doing the right things with the person you married.
In other words, relationships are a constant work in progress. if your marriage seems to be rocky, try these tips to restore the happy connection that made you say I do in the first place. Analyze Yourself A common assumption is that it takes both partners to save their marriage. This seems reasonable, but it just isnt true. Unless your spouse has truly and completely given.
Up on the relationship, it is possible for you to make sufficient changes to save the marriage. Perhaps not immediately, but over time its inevitable that the unhappy partner will notice the positive change in your behaviour and will respond to it. Whether you know it or not, you and your spouse communicate in a revolving stimulus, a response pattern if you will. This means that when you do or say something, the stimulus and your partner reacts, and then you react to their reaction, and so on. The same thing.
Occurs when your partner says or does something. the two of you have built up a pattern of habitual actions and reactions over time. Since a couple is comprised of two individuals, a change in the behaviour of one person will have an impact on the other, and therefore the entire relationship. When the stimulus changes, there will be a new, different response. That new response will elicit another new and different response. If this happens enough, a new pattern of behaviours will emerge. Assuming.
The new actions and reactions are positive, the relationship takes a positive turn. For example, if you have developed a habit of being disrespectful towards your spouse, she will have developed some kind of reaction or coping mechanism. If you stop disrespectful behaviour, she wont need to use her coping mechanism, and her reaction to you will chance. The simplest step to saving your marriage is to take a frank look at your own behaviour and access how you can change it, how you communicate with your spouse, and what habits.
You have that kickstart arguments. spend some time looking at your relationship and figure out which parts work, and which parts dont. Take a moment to imagine a perfect day in your perfect relationship. What would it look like? How would you and your partner interact? Next, try creating a plan of how you might get from point A, your current reality, to point B, that perfect day. Write it down if you need to, it can be something you review to remind yourself what it is that youre working towards. To avoid feeling overwhelmed,.
Ephesians 5, the part of the chapter that i wanted to focus on is the latter part there from verses 22 through 33 where God is giving instructions unto husbands and wives. There are several passages like this in the New Testament. This is probably the most famous one. It starts out by saying in verse 22, Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church. He is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ,.
So let the wives be to their own husband in everything. Husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the Word, that he might present it to himself a glorious church not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that their should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated.
His own flesh but noursheth and cherisheth it even as the lord the church. for we are members of his body, of his flesh and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife, and they too shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. In verse 33 he gives a synopsis again of what he’s saying in this main passage. He says, Never the less, let everyone in you particular so love his wife even as himself, and the.
Wife see that she reverence her husband. according to this passage we can clearly see that the key responsibility of a husband toward his wife is to love his wife. The key responsibility of the wife toward her husband is to reverence her husband. If we had to pick what is the main thing, that’s the main thing. Now, there are many other things that we as husbands need to do besides just loving our wives. There are many other things that our wives need to do besides just reverencing us. When we want to talk about what is the.
Major theme it’s wrapped up right there in verse 33 when it says, let everyone of you in particular so love his wife even as himself, and the wife see that she reverence her husband. What does reverence mean? It’s like respect, but it’s a stronger word than respect. It’s more life fear. It’s a very deep respect. What I want to preach about tonight, and if you would flip over to Proverbs 31. What I want to preach about tonight is just some practical advise for your marriage. I’m going to give some practical things that wives should.
Do, that husbands should do and that both of us in our marriages should be doing in order to have a good marriage. I strongly believe that what works for one person often will work for everybody if it’s just straight out of the Bible. A lot of people think it’s got to be different for everybody. I understand that okay, people are different, and they have different situations, but there are certain things in the Bible where God just lays them out as a principle, that’s just a universal principle where it just goes.
For everybody. they’ll sit there and go, i just don’t think that this arrangement will work in my marriage where the husband’s in charge. I think in my marriage it would be better if the wife is in charge. That just doesn’t work that way. Everybody thinks they’re the exception and they’re different. Honestly, there are a lot of principles that are just universal in the Bible that we could all put into practice and that we could all use. I’m not one who does a lot of marriage counseling. A lot of pastors do a lot of marriage counseling.
I mean, they’re doing marriage counseling just every day, every week. i even know pastors who put ads in the yellow pages in the marriage counseling section just to do more marriage counseling. I’m not why they hate themselves that much. Anyway, a lot of pastors do a lot of counseling. Here’s the thing. If somebody asks me for advice on their marriage or has a question about marriage, I’ll always answer their question. I don’t just say, Hey, I don’t do counseling. I’ll give them their question, but I don’t really do counseling.