Marriage Counseling How to Get Your MotherInLaw to Shut the Hell Up
Hi, I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources. We're going to be talking about communication skills today. Specifically, how do we get our motherinlaw to shut the hell up Dangerous ground. Just how do we get our motherinlaw to shut the hell up Now, the question. Well, duck tape works, duck tape works for everything. As a matter of fact, my father used to put it on the rust spots on his car. But anyway, the first thing that needs to happen, is, is have a dialog with your motherinlaw. Just really understand what is causing her.
Behavior Why is she continuing to communicate at you, perhaps badger you and come at you Because, realistically, the, the issue or the fault actually may be with you. The reason that she is continuing to badger you. Is it a fault of yours, are you not taking the garbage out Are you leaving your clothes all over the place Are you, somebody who's irresponsible So, you really need to take a look at, at your behaviors, and find out if it's your behaviors that's causing your motherinlaw to have these issues, or these patterns. And.
Then, correct that, and then that way you can just eliminate that. They say that you can pick your friends, but not your family, and that's true. In a situation like this, it really may require you to sit down and compromise with your motherinlaw. It may be better for you, your family situation, and the situation with your wife. Ultimately, one or, one or you is going to have to, to compromise and give up. So, the dialog needs to take place first, communication has to take place, and understanding needs to take.
Is Your MotherinLaw a Bully Its a Good Idea
Hi there, I'm Angela Oberer and today's good idea comes from Kendra. She writes in and says First of all, be the first to apologize. Whenever you get in an argument, whenever you get in a fight, be the first one to apologize. If you wait for the other person to apologize, you might be waiting forever right So if you're the first one to apologize, you can start the forgiveness process, you get that off your chest, and you're free to move on and live happily ever after. What happens to the other person, I have no idea.
They might apologize, they might try to mend the friendship or relationship, or they might choose to hold a grudge and be ugly for the rest of their life. I have no idea. But be the first to apologize any time you come into an argument. Second of all When there is an argument and emotions are running high, and there's tension, and there's frustration, and people are slinging stuff back and forth at each other, which probably can't ever be taken back, slow down. When I was learning drivers ed, and I was learning to drive my dad took me out in the.
Car for a test drive. And as we came up around a great big curve, My dad turned to me, I was going about 70 miles per hour. And he could have said lots of things, he could have cussed at me, he could have said WHOA or he could have said STOP or something, he could have said anything, but what he did was, he turned to me quietly and he said You don't want to take that curve at 70 miles per hour. Ooh. And I slowed down. Okay, there's danger at 70 miles per hour.
In an argument, that danger is saying things that cannot be taken back. Okay There's danger at 70 miles per hour. Now there's not a day that goes by that I haven't thought of that. You don't want to take that curve at 70 MPH And if you're in the middle of an argument, slow down. Listen, and watch, but don't say things you can't take back. Life is too short, and you'll spend the rest of your life apologizing. So be the first to apologize, and then when you talk to your motherinlaw slow down.
Problem between Mother and wife Mufti Ismail Menk
Very very important question what is the solution of parents made mistakes 100 percent like my mother behaved with my wife even if I know she's wrong but it's from my parents I this is something important relationship between parents and your spouse , your spouse , in laws you know I still don't understand why it's called in law law maybe come into place. may actually need to be involved lawyer or something that' why they say in law. so that's term they use. you need to have a defined relationship.
I believe is you need to have a define line we love our mothers and fathers and we love our spouse but the love is different one is a different type of love. it's not exactly the same you need to sit with parents down sometimes then explain to them that you know what you will have to understand I love you so much your love is not going to be decreased by me loving my own wife or all by me fulfilling the rights of my own wife but.
You definitely need to know the this is my wife and you are my parents I cannot do without either of you so it's important for you as a man sometime to draw a line in a beautiful way and explain to them how not to cross the line I'm actually done it with my own May Allah grand us us peace. you need to make it clear. look you are not going to loose anything but at the same time you must understand is I don't want you to temper all the rights of the other.
What an example comes to my mind there was a brother who complains to me you know I don't know how everywhere I go my mother just join us. if I go on holidays my mother just says I am coming the father passed away where i go my mother is coming my mother comes shopping, my mother comes on holiday, my mother comes for a walk I am with my wife when I get my own time, i am barred and I told him I said you know sit your mother down and tell her you know we.
11 Yr Old Implies Same Sex Marriage Would Take Away Her Mom
Miss Evans please introduce yourself for the record. My name is Grace Evans and I want to thank you for letting me speak today. Even though I am only 11yearsold, I know that everyone deserves to have a mom and dad. If you change the law that says two moms or two dads to get married it would take away something very important for children like me across the state. My mom is very important to me because she teaches me about things about being a girl. She is kind, thoughtful,.
Gentle and beautiful. She cares for me and others and listens to the things I want to talk about. I am learning from her to be a good woman, wife and mother someday. Even though I learned some of these things from my dad, my mom teaches them in a very special way. Without my mom it would be very hard for me to learn them. She's my role model in how to be a girl and I love her very much. My dad is also very important to me because.
He protects me and helps me get the confidence to be a girl who is growing up to be a woman. He takes care of problems the way my mom cannot. Just like my mom wouldn't be able to be the woman she is without my dad, I wouldn't be able to be the woman I want to be without my dad. Because he is strong, wise and different than my mom. I learned things from him that I would not in the same way from my mom. Since every child needs a mom and a dad to be born, I don't think we can change that.
Key Peele Office Homophobe
Rhythmic bass beat, sensual moans LATRELL WHAT'S UP, BABY GIRL CAN YOU PLEASE TURN THAT OFF WHY, YOU DON'T LIKE MY MUSIC IS IT MUSIC BECAUSE IT SOUNDS LIKE A BUNCH OF SEX NOISES OVER A BASS LINE. OH. I GET IT. YOU DON'T LIKE MY MUSIC 'CAUSE I'M GAY. YOU CAN'T HANDLE A GAY MAN'S MUSIC. NO, NO, NO. IT'SI'M TRYING TO WORK HERE, AND THAT MUSIC IS WEIRDLY SEXUAL. OH, I SEE. SO MY SEXUALITY IS WEIRD. YOU JUST CAN'T FATHOM A MAN BEING ATTRACTED.
TO ANOTHER MAN. I CAN FATHOM IT. IT'S CAN YOU JUST PLEASE LISTEN TO SOME OTHER GAY MUSIC, LIKE BARBRA STREISAND OR SOMETHING OH, I SEE, I SEE. OKAY. SO LISTENING TO BARBRA STREISAND IS GAY. STEREOTYPE MUCH keys clacking SO YOU SEEING ANYBODY LATELY YEAH, II MEAN, KIND OF. I THINK 'CAUSE I GOT IT GOOD LAST NIGHT. OH, IT WAS LIKE, DAMN! I MEAN, MY MAN WAS LIKE, BLOP! LIKE, HE HAD A BABY ARM HOLDING ON TO A APPLE. AW, DON'T CALL IT A BABY ARM.
AW. I SEE. SO YOU CAN'T HANDLE HEARING ABOUT HOW I'M GAY. I'M SORRY. YOU JUST REFERRED TO YOUR BOYFRIEND'S PENIS AS A BABY'S ARM HOLDING AN APPLE. WELL, THAT'S WHAT IT LOOKED LIKE. AND IT'S NOT MY BOYFRIEND, BY THE WAY. AND ANYWHATS, YOU'RE HOMOPHOBIC. NO, NO, NO. THAT'S NOT HOMOPHOBIC, OKAY YOU'RE EXPLICITLY TALKING ABOUT SEXUAL THINGS IN THE WORKPLACE. FINE. THERE'S PLENTY OF STUFF THAT WE CAN TALK ABOUT. YOU KNOW, UH, MY PENIS CUP, MY SCROTUM COZIES THAT I HAVE BEEN KNITTING RECENTLY.
OH, WITH THESE KNITTING NEEDLES THAT I HAVE JUST NOTICED LOOK LIKE LITTLE, SKINNY, PURPLE PENISES, ET CETERA AND ET CETERA. OH, MY GOD. CAN I SHOW YOU A PICTURE, AND THEN YOU TELL ME IF IT'S GOOD FOR FACEBOOK OKAY, I'M FAIRLY CERTAIN YOU'RE GOING TO SHOW ME SOMETHING OVERTLY SEXUAL. DON'T YOU PREJUDGE ME! HERE IT IS. AGH! bleep! THAT'S A CLOSEUP OF AN ANUS. OH, NO, THAT'S NOTltigt ANltigt ANUS. THAT'S MY ANUS, BABY GIRL. THAT'S DISGUSTING. OH, I SEE.
SO YOU DON'T WANT TO SEE A CLOSEUP PICTURE OF MY ANUS 'CAUSE YOU HATE GUY MEN. NO. I DON'T WANT TO LOOK AT A CLOSEUP PICTURE OF ANYONE'S ANUS. HOMOPHOBE. HOMOPHOBE. THERE'S A HOMOPHOBE RIGHT HERE. HO blows whistle HOMOPHOBE ALERT! highpitched voice HOMOPHOBE! imitating siren wailing HEY. HEY, BABY. HOW'S IT GOING GOOD. READY TO GO TO LUNCH YEAH. UH, LATRELL, THIS IS GAVIN. GAVIN, THIS IS LATRELL. THIS IS MY BOYFRIEND. HOW YOU DOING I'MI'M I'M DOING VERY WELL. HOWHOW ARE YOU DOING, GAVINGAVIN.
Sweep Scoop SLUMMY MUMMY Ep 4 MomCaveTV New mom baby babies newborn marriage
Blues music. Loud baby cries. It's time to go to sleep, sweetie. Go to sleep. Go to sleep. Mama loves you. You've been fed, and changed, and I even let you watch TV. It's time to go to sleep. I suck at this. If my mom was here, he'd be out. Babe. let me show you how it's done. It's all in the knees. Here we go. Here we go. See Now watch me. Sweep and scoop. Sweep and scoop. I can't do that. Yeah, you can. No, I literally CAN'T do that. My thighs are burning from strollercize.
That woman is the Nazi of postnatal fitness. Maybe she wants to sell our babies on the black market. I don't know. But I don't think we're going to make it out alive. You know what I think about that. I mean, it's a waste of your energy. You are already exhausted as it is and you look great. That class is just a way for the women in the neighborhood to compete with each other. Now men. Men would not put up with that bullshit. If men had babies, they would congratulate each other on their big fat flabby bellies. They would have bellybumping contests.
Where the winner would get artisanal beers funneled down his throat while he reclined and watched Pawn Stars. It's not for them. It's for work. You want me to book jobs and make money, don't you Babe, we're doing fine. I'm working more now than ever. You're never here. This is the first night you've been home in a month. Do you know how long that is in baby time It's like dog years. You know I wish I could stay here with you guys. And someday I'll be able to.
But right now, we just have to stay on budget and just build up a little nest egg. We're probably the only couple in Manhattan with a budget of $30 a day. For EVERYTHING. It's plenty. We're frugal. We're not starving. Right. I'm supposed to lose weight anyway. I like you like this. Shh! We don't want to wake him. We're not going to wake him. He slept through the 4th of July fireworks. He'll sleep through a little. married couple lovemaking session. Wait. So you're saying you want to have the sex Like right now.
Why You Should Never Live with Your Mother in Law
Can you tell me why you should never live with your Mother in Law If you value your sanity, you should try to avoid it. That's rather dramatic. Mark Twain reportedly said the best argument against polygamy was that a man can't have two masters. If you live with your mother in law, your wife and her mother both think they are your master. Can you give me a more realistic reason Imagine that you've lost your job and are in such dire straights that you have to move in with your mother in law. And now you've proven that you are the unemployed, underachieving.
SOB your mother in law thought you were. I guess that's why the Bible says better to eat bread on the roof than share the house with a quarrelsome woman. Be very careful quoting that to a Bible believing woman or she'll become every stereotype of what you don't want a woman to be. What about a woman moving in with her husband's family So now she can criticize how you take care of her husband as well as any kids you have. I guess hating your mother in law is a genderneutral trait.
Fathers in law rarely hate daughters in law. Men who are afraid of a girl's father don't stick around long enough to marry her. Except for the shot gun weddings. Those are illegal these days. A baseball bat to the kneecaps, though, the law is a little fuzzier there. Why do you think women want to live with their mothers They get a built in babysitter for any kids, someone who is probably more fastidious on housekeeping, a natural ear for any gripes and a pit bull to criticize hubby if he fails.
InLaw Relations Key to a Good Marriage
Twenty sixyearold longitudinal study indicates that married couples occu really benefit when it comes to relationships with their inlaws but many women benefit in different ways so what they found is that when males charmed the hell out of their inlaws that could actually strengthened their relationship with their wives or when wives are so close for comfort with therein lies back actually be negative for the marriage really desires that it's in there very interesting selloutlive religion of the findings are not what a finding of the twenty sixyear year longitudinal study for married.
Couples is that marriages in which the husband report reports feeling close to his inlaws are more likely to last for the long haul and it's because a woman really appreciate at the husband is making an effort to be close with the family she finds it indy race she finds a charming admiralty district really of course appa quality declare reports on top of the various forget uh. in couples where the husband initially reported being close to his wife's parents the rest of the war is over the next sixteen years.
Was twenty percent lower than for the group overall yet when the wife reported being close to her in laws that seemed to have the opposite effect the risk of the force for these couples was twenty percent higher okay that's really true for you got to tell me why okay so what happens is when you get very close herein lies is a one min especially to your motherinlaw all of a sudden is very easy for your motherinlaw it's a kind of or across boundaries so for instance shelby into metal little more because.
She feels like she can do it with without any real consequence and i wanted to say uh. and then you know and i'm sure i could imagine that if my motherinlaw was telling me all this is how you should raise your baby this is the way you should rest services you should be there for your husband went public lot passage right now no that stuff is super annoying right and no one wants to do and that is very your mother was the new that the other one.
I know it daily you're close here not closed they can help themselves they were mothers before they think they know how to do it was a lot of them too so you know that there would be fair to it that that uh. that of the there's a high think there's a healthy uh. relationship yelling kill healthy distance the issues that respective motherinlaw and i'm not married so by the way i sound like a moron say any of this but i i think it's true if you become a very close with an individual then they feel comfortable.
Sharing things that they otherwise would would withhold missile you know they feel like okay like and tell her and she will get her feelings or we're good friends you know we're more than just family were great with birthday should be done his knowledge that my motherinlaw that'll do it but it's very very very proud of the length of the throughout this president dcurrie if it turns out my exgirlfriend of the big picture of what the too uh. at is that there is a big help either stephanie.
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