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Best ADVICE TIPS How to improve your communication and never argue again Lisa Mohr Self Help
Is the silent treatment adding noise to your relationship? do you play head games with your partner? Do you have expectations that they are mind readers, that they should just know how you’re feeling at all times? I have this personal rule for myself. If the person I’m dating has to guess at what I’m feeling, I have failed in my communication. That’s profound. I take ownership for each and every one of my feelings. Beyond that, I take ownership of communicating and relaying how I am feeling to my partner. Why do I do that? When there’s.
No guessing involved, then there’s no sudden games where all of a sudden, one person is playing a game that has determined the rules and when it’s going to start and when it’s going to finish. It eliminates all the stress in the relationship. What if you had zero stress in your relationship? What if you had a stressfree relationship? What is the communication was so stellar that there were never any arguments or misunderstandings? Truly, if you have a relationship like this,.
Bravo. i’m guessing you have a relationship like this, because you probably communicate. You probably talk. I’ve an analogy. I believe that I have a quadruple decker tool box full of four different levels and dozens and dozens of compartments of different master tools for communicating. I’ve learned how to use each of these tools and I’ve acquired each of these tools over the vast period of my life from all the different individuals that I’ve come into contact with.
Every time i run into a situation where i don’t have a tool and then i end up developing a new tool, a new way to communicate, I’m very excited. I’m actually excited for the misunderstanding because it gives me a new tool, a new way to communicate. Quite literally, I can talk to just about anyone and because I’m so confident in what I am feeling. I think that’s the core. If you’re passiveaggressive, there might be part of you that’s not sure if you’re worth or deserving of feeling like you’re actually feeling.
Instead of actually saying it, you might be quieting and then be passiveaggressive to your partner, but you’re partner doesn’t know A, that they screwed up, B, that you’ve suddenly initiated a game and that they’re playing, and that oh, by the way, if they don’t play it correctly, they’ll be severely punished. You look at communication and misunderstandings. I’ve said this before. I’ll say it again. We judge ourselves by our intentions and we judge other people by their actions. If you are judging your partner by their action and.
You’re not really understanding their intention, you’re probably going to be more likely to have a fight, but the truth is, you’re the one right one right now, if you’re playing passiveaggressive that has intention to hurt that person. Your partner probably didn’t mean to hurt you by forgetting that you don’t eat chocolate and bought you chocolate. They probably didn’t do that. I guessing they probably didn’t want to fight. They probably didn’t want to be passiveaggressively tortured. Why would you.
Waste energy? why would you waste your precious energy putting any of your life moments into a dynamic that’s not going to end well? You’ll just end up hurting that person and punishing them into treating you better in mind reading. Much easier if you can just communicate and say exactly what you feel. Silence all the extra noise in your relationship by being a direct and clear communicator each and every time.