Human Sexuality is Complicated.
Good morning, John. Today we plumb the depths of the marvelously complex human. But, first allow me to acknowledge that I am not a sociologist. I am also a straight, white man who doesn't have to worry about a lot of the hate that a lot of other people do have to worry about. But, my goal with this tutorial is I want people to understand, because I think understanding will lead to less hate. And also less selfhate. For a lot of people it is nice to imagine that humans are simple and that you can know.
A person's sex and then you will know all sorts of things about them deeply and clearly. And if you don't fit into this nice little box, people who do can get really confused and sometimes even angry. And if you yourself don't fit into one of these nice little boxes, and you think people should, then you end up hating yourself. And that's probably even worse. I think the best, and maybe only way to solve this problem is for people to understand that there are no nice shiny boxes.
Or if there are shiny boxes, there are an infinite number of them. Enough to put all of the people who currently exist, have ever existed, and will ever exist. So, together, let's understand. We're gonna start simple What's going on down here, in between the legs. That is your sex. Your biological sex. And it tends to be binary, though there are all sorts of conditions that result in intersex individuals. And as interesting and complicated as this is, the rest of it is much more complicated. So, I'm just gonna move on from here.
'Cause we all kinda get what sex is. Now we move on up to the top, to the brain, which is the thing that decides what gender you identify with Whether you feel like a man or a woman or neither or both. Because the fascinating thing is, as much as we try to label things, there is no way to label every point on an infinite continuum. And that's what we're dealing with here. So, to actually visualize how this works I've created a graph for you. On the Xaxis we have gender male to female.
And on the Yaxis we have the intensity of the identification with that gender. I would be about here because I identify as a man though I recognize that there are some womany parts of me. But, let's also put a hypothetical biological female on the graph that identifies very strongly as a man. Now that could be really uncomfortable, especially when there is a bunch of people in the world who insist on calling him a woman just because of the body that he happens to be very uncomfortable with.
Which is why sex does not determine the pronoun you should use. Gender does. Now, moving on to your heart your metaphorical heart, of course. This is who you are attracted to men, women, all genders. Again, it's a spectrum and that spectrum includes intensity because there are people who don't feel strong sexual attraction at all. That's why asexual is a sexual orientation. A newer idea that I was happy to be exposed to yesterday on Tumblr, is the idea of Romantic Orientation. These are the people you want to have strong,.
Intimate relationships with, but it sorta separates out the idea that sex has to be the goal or end point or like end all and be all of every intimate relationship. Now that we've dealt with how we feel, let's deal with what happens when other people actually get involved. That's sexual behavior which is actually very different from sexual orientation. And that might seem a little bit strange at first, but it's not. Consider for example, a heterosexual priest. That priest's orientation is heterosexual, but because of his religion, his behavior is celibate.
Here we're not talking about the preference, we're talking about the behavior. Now, built up of all of this are gender roles which are built by societies, not by individuals. The obvious ones are masculine gender roles and feminine gender roles. But as all dichotomies are false dichotomies, this one is a spectrum too. Now that we've sort of gone over all of this, it's important to note that every single one of these categories is independent from each other. So, a biological female could be a man who only has sex.
With woman despite the fact that he's attracted to both men and woman and kind of, you know, feels more comfortable in feminine gender roles. That may not be the most common combination of these factors, but it's certainly not weird. And another important point, many people move across these spectrums sometimes from year to year, sometimes hour to hour. But, what's really important is that we trust ourselves and we understand ourselves. And we love and respect ourselves and we grant that same understanding and respect to the people around us.
Survey Says Marriage Is Obsolete
There's absolutely adores marketplace where space the pew research center gested a as study on marriage and have found out that four out of ten americans uh. think that marriage is obsolete so they think that it's not that important uh. now they're family structures that are completely different for instance there are parents that are just living together but they're not marry their single mothers raising kids you know in order to have a family you don't necessarily have to be married right and and i think that this is super fascinating disorder uh. so let me give you know uh.
A little bit of an example so um. it just twenty nine percent uh. ended nineteen seventyeight uh. outside all that responds that the free market happen actions were married in two thousand eight so fifty two percent of americans were married in two thousand compared that to seventy two percent in nineteen sixty so less really yahoo less people are getting married that's a striking difference i wouldn't have thought that it was the uh. yeah it's a huge difference and uh. all what's interesting about that is the one where people are finding it.
Not that important to get married yeah i was struck by a by that that was the couple things here that asking whether marriages obsolete a forty percent thirty nine percent say it's obsolete that was twenty eight percent in nineteen seventy eight right uh. but the thirty nine percent now uh. about three and five sixty two percent of people who are living unmarried with the kid uh. they say it's not rent you would expect that bail because that big a deal position forty two percent of conservatives think marriages obsolete.
But they don't think it's good there bobbie about like that and easy about it but also in when you mentioned the education part so wake to really educated i get married and so you mention like surveillance john bainer saying like oh yes so only the lee scared very brighter and in that article that week that missus of because we like marriage but we think the elites anyway to get totally interesting story unloaded thirty to about forty percent of conservatives work papers is obsolete at the eight financial partners that marriage is obsolete worst that.
In fact ac doctor laurels commenting on the story today and she was deeply bothered by it which is unsurprising she would be deeply but nothing has changed in the percentage of people who say family is the most important thing right sonata destruction of family anyway she's people changing but oh my family's most important thing to me and he's not married to this guy and i got the kid were you know what that still the most important right at you know there was an entire section of the study called other resilience families and as you mentioned.
Most people find their family the most important element of their lives however uh. their definition of family has changed and i think rightfully so times are changing you don't have to be married to have a family and a lot of people in the study the majority of people in the study said decimal mother raising a child that's considered a family you know it does crazy idea of matt oneinch children it's no longer the only definition of a family uh. gay couples you know who have adopted children they're considered a family and i.
Love that that means that our clients that are progressing i thought was interesting that like what is the seventy seven percent of people think that was the most important thing and then but still sixty one percent uh. saying that there was a great one fifteen it's possible for square specks that help people but certainly that wake forest service or and it looks a little more just website were they happen i've thrown out so you can at your website on the ground georgia for a book and personal.
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Woman Reports Rape, Imprisoned for Sex Outside Marriage
This next story is based on an article from the AP written in Norwegian that we had translated so up there may be some details that have been lost in translation but the long and short of it is that a Norwegian woman was sentenced to prison for a year and four months in Dubai after she reported being raped she reported being raped to the Dubai Police and she never thought of the fact that sex outside of marriage is a crime in Dubai and then the information that she gave in the police report was then.
Used to actually prosecutor and she was convicted have sex outside of marriage and she's been sentenced to a year and four months in prison can you believe this Louis I can't believe it this is the this is the Middle East this is what happens and I just don't understand why anyone would go to you and your support Dubai especially after some of the other or stories be for dinner right well this isn't the first time this happened just a couple of months ago an Australian woman named a we should ghali 27 years old.
Gave an interview talking about when she was gangraped in Dubai and then had to spend eight months in jail for having sex outside of marriage now here's the point I wanna draw your attention to you a lot love the rightwingers that in the US are very critical of Sharia law and all of the things that brings like this story are basically in favor of a Christian version of Sharia law it's a little bit different in that you see it legislated on the issues of abortion or gay marriage or these.
Faithbased socalled profamily initiatives it's basically the same thing and and we can't allow ourselves Louis to be confused and think that it's two totally different things it's different versions over religiousbased law right and unfortunately whatever religion you subscribe to you makes you blind to everything else so of course when they impose their versions the best it's completely correct as long as it's not the as long as you're ok with the name of any other religion on it absolutely let's take a quick break we'll be back with more after this Dennis Campbell is.
Govt to create better environment for marriage to boost birth rate 3
Reducing childcare expenses for families. is not proving to be effective in helping to boost Koreas chronically low birth rate. So instead policymakers shift their focus to creating a better environment for young married couples who are just getting started. Kim Minji takes a look at whether this move could help achieve the desired effect down the road. Create a better environment for people to get married and have children. Thats what the government plans to do. as Korea continues to wrestle with the chronic problem of a low birth rate.
Over the next five years. the government will take steps to help young people tie the knot rather than postpone it indefinitely as many do now. The decision is based in part on data showing that the younger a person is when they get married. the more children they will have. In the year 2000. 26 was the average age at which Korean women first got married. But by 2013 it had risen to 30. The proportion of single people ages 25 to ' has also risen. nearly doubling in 10 years.
None of this is good news for Korea. as women who married before they were 25 had two children on average. while those who tied the knot after age 35 had just one. We believe that reducing the burden when it comes to finding housing. or getting a good education or a stable job. will prevent young couples from postponing marriage. To accomplish that. the government is hoping to increase the number of jobs for young people. By 2017. it plans to create 40thousand new positions in the public sector. while supporting job creation efforts initiated.
Is Indias Caste System Still Alive
India is growing and changing fast, but some traditional views are still in place. Institutions like the caste system have been outlawed, yet caste discrimination and segregation still occurs. The most recent economic data indicated that, in urban areas, a wealth gap of 60 exists between people traditionally from the highest and lowest caste. So what is the Indian caste system And how is it affecting modern India Well, the caste system is a hereditary, social hierarchy, also called the Jati dti system, that's existed in India for nearly two thousand years. Historians think that.
These social distinctions may be based in ancient Hinduism, which delineates four major social classes, or varnas. On top are the Brahmins, usually described as priests and scholars. Then come the Kshatriyas, described as nobles and warriors. The Vaishyas below them operate commercial businesses. And the Shudras, below THEM, are referred to as laborers or servants. Then, there is a fifth group, completely ostracized from traditional Indian society the Untouchables. Now called Dalits, this lowest caste is relegated to undesirable jobs, like cleaning sewers. Because they are considered impure, the Dalits have been regularly segregated from schools.
And religious temples, and there are reports that some have even been punished for letting their shadow fall on someone of a higher caste. Experts think that this hierarchy wasn't strictly adhered to in the region, until the British claimed India as a colony, and wrote the caste system into their laws. From there, the system became more rigid, and when India gained independence from Britain in 1947, it was ingrained into the culture. Obviously, the Dalits got the short end of the stick in this historical arrangement. But in 1955, discrimination based on caste was outlawed. And to help reintegrate lowercastes.
In modern society, the government later implemented affirmative actionlike quotas for certain jobs and university admissions. However, vestiges of the caste hierarchy undoubtedly remain. A politician's caste continues to be an important deciding factor for many voters, and marrying or acting outside of one's caste continue to be taboo in many rural areas. For India to become completely castefree, more education, government policies, and social programs may be needed. Although this social system is still rooted deep in India, it does have cracks. To hear the inspiring story of one young boy who beat the system, check out this tutorial from This.
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