Picture this: you’re fighting with your partner and the tension is rising between you, then all of a sudden you notice a spark of anger in their eyes and KABOOM!!! A massive fight erupts. Now you’ve been here before and you know how these kind of fights end. Usually in icy cold silences with one of you sleeping on the couch and leaving a crater of hurt that could take weeks to recover from. Hi, I’m Bruce Muzik.
I’m a relationship coach and i help couples to stop fighting, start connecting and turn their marriages and relationships around. In this tutorial we are going to learn four counter intuitive strategies to stop any fight from exploding into a volcanic like eruption and actually resolve the conflict in any place. anytime. A big promise?. I know, and I’ve road tested all four of these strategies in my relationship coaching practice so I know that they work. Here is strategy number 1:.
Imagine you are in a boxing ring. and your opponent is throwing punches at you left, right and center What do you do? Well, you block and you duck and you defend yourself and whenever you get an opportunity you throw a couple of punches back, and they block and defend themselves and you go backwards and forth creating punches. When you’re defending. you are inviting them to attack and throw punches. When you are attacking, you are inviting them to defend. And what most people don’t see is that defense and attack are two sides of.
The same coin and as long as you’re defending yourselves you’re inviting an attack and as long as you are attacking you’re inviting your opponent to defend themselves. The only way to stop a fight is to actually step out of the ring. completely. Try this instead: Instead of fighting be defenseless. You are actually inviting conflict in by defending yourself, so here is an easy way to be defenseless. Find something you can agree with your partner about. Find something in what they’ve said that you can.
Agree with. you might hypothetically say something like yes honey, you’re right. i did leave the car headlights on and the battery is flat. With no yelling at you about leaving the lights on in the car. This is going to completely catch them off guard and interrupt that pattern of attack, defend, attack, defend, attack, defend. It will also sooth your partner and calm them down knowing that you’re not defending. That you are actually agreeing with them. But Bruce! I hear you cry. What if I can’t find something to agree with? Well. then you’re going to.
Try strategy number two. strategy number two is to demonstrate that you are listening. you see, we human beings have an almost primal need to feel heard and understood; and half the time your partner is upset their just wanting you to listen to them, they just want you to hear them so they can feel that you understand them and you care about what they are saying. So try this strategy to make you partner feel heard and understood. When they are talking with you in an upset tone of voice, instead of defending yourself; repeat back to them what.
They actually said. so you might say something like, so what i am hearing you say honey is that I left the lights on and the car battery is flat and now you’re gonna be late for work, did I get it? Notice at the end I put the phrase DID I GET IT? I did this because I want to confirm that I’ve actually understood what my partner says, it shows them how much I really want to understand what they are saying, and it’s also a sign of respect and calms down that reptilian part of their brain that might be about to get triggered. When.
They hear you say did i get it? they know that they are going to have an opportunity to speak and you’re just going to listen, you are not going to be defending. It’s a great way to deescalate conflict. Try it! It works like magic. I’ll teach you an even more advance version of this tool in my Love At First Fight coaching program, which I will tell you more about at the end of this tutorial. Now, strategy number three is to take ownership of the situation and apologize for your part in it. But you did left the headlights on didn’t you? Yeah.
Prayer For Marriage Powerful Miracle Prayer For Marriage
Welcome to the prayer for marriage this is simply a tutorial i put together were allowed to pray for anyone within the sound of my voice about miracle prayer for marriage all I ask you to do is to agree with me as we seek our Heavenly Father together please continue to meditate on the spur for yourself speak it daily or listen to this tutorial over and over again about powerful prayer for marriage and all other water garden concerning marriage to reach deep into your spirit let us pray heavenly father we gather together your online.
Income into agreement in the wonderful and powerful name of jesus where two or more gathered there you shall surely be anything we agree upon is touching you will surely do the Bible says that if there’s any unforgiveness that should be dealt with before praying therefore we release any anger bad feelings resentment or any other wrong attitude before you now we laid at your feet and we release our forgive those who have wronged us I lift up those watching this prayer for our marriage.
Tutorial we come into agreement and lift up their marriage larger words says in Romans 55 that love is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Spirit if you say that and that’s in there and then that settles it no matter what we feel father you are loved and you are inside us and therefore love is working in the marriage of the listener we declare that is expressed in its fullness in their relationship we pray that they will let all bitterness bad moods malice wrath.
Indignation rage bad tempers resentment brawling spite ill will clamor contention slander abuse evil speaking or blasphemous language be banished from their marriage we break the power of these things in Jesus name we declare that those listening and their spouse are becoming useful and helpful and kind to each other tender hearted compassionate understanding loving hearted forgiving.
One another readily lend freely as you lord through jesus have forgiven them we prayers for marriage bind your love around the marriage of those listening by your Holy Spirit help them to carry themselves as husband and wife honorably and properly in your site open their eyes to see the value of their marriage that it is precious in your site lord help them to live in harmony and in one accord with one another we speak.
Strength over them now in jesus name we declare that they are of the same mind and they are united in spirit we declare that they are compassionate kind tender humble and gentle with one another lord we ask that they recognize your piece which you have given them made that piece which surpasses understanding guard their hearts and minds in Jesus name.
They are areas together of the grace of god in jesus name help those listening to build their marriage on your word since they built their marriage on the rocks they will not be shaken when storms come we declare that they are rooted in love and founded securely on your love in Jesus name every day their marriage is getting stronger in Christ we declare that those listening and their spouse endure long and are patient and kind they are never.
Envious and never boil over with jealousy they’re not boastful their main prayer for marriage glorious and they do not display themselves haughtily they’re not rude in an early and do not act unbecoming Lee they do not insist on their own rights or their own way they’re not selfseeking touchy fretful resentful they take no account of the evil done to them and pay no attention to a suffered wrong they do not rejoice at injustice but they rejoice when right in truth.