Alright, we are looking at specific ways,specific reasons in which relationships deteriorate. The next one we want to talk about is thirdparty. You know, you’ve heard the phrase twos company, threes a crowd, well that’s whathappens here. Now, when we talk about third party we’re talking about bringing someoneelse into the relationship. Now, the first thing that you probably think of is spousesor girlfriends or boyfriends or intimate sexual relationships and we cheat on each other.That is definitely third party involvement, but it doesn’t always have to be sexual. Itcan be you start to hang out with somebody different, because what third party involvementis all about is that one person’s needs
are not getting met anymore. So, they haveto seek elsewhere to get those needs met and maybe it’s not all of their needs maybe it’sjust some of their needs. So, all of a sudden where you two were hanging out every Fridaynight together or you two were hanging out every weekend together now all the suddenI want to go hang out with Jim. Well, I think I’ll go out with Sally on Saturday instead,because you need that you need to have those needs met. That’s what third party involvementis. So, if somebody starts becoming involved in your relationship that’s definitely a signthat needs are not being met somewhere..
Individual Therapy How to Get Over a Breakup Moving Beyond Your Last Relationship
Hi, I’m Patti German and I’m a licensed marriageand family therapist here in New York City. In this clip we’re going to talk about howto move beyond a relationship that has just ended. Well I think the most important thingis to talk about your feelings and not to bury it and just get into another relationship.I think this is an opportunity to understand yourself and what happened in the relationshipbecause patterns repeat and if you don’t understand your contribution to the relationship notworking, 9 out of 10 times it’s going to repeat itself again in a new relationship. This mightbe a time to seek some professional help to understand yourself and to have the luxuryto explore what, who you are and how you interact
and what happens to you around another person.It doesn’t have to be a devastation, it can be the opportunity of a lifetime to beginto understand yourself and how you relate to others, what’s important to you and howto continue going forward. This is Patti German in New York City..