2 Things You Must Have After a Breakup Update
Hey guys, Michael Griswold here. You know over the last few years, I've been doing a lot of coaching, written a book and created a system for people who've just been dumped. And the system is to help them to recover and restore relationships that are worth restoring. And often times, people are like What exactly do I say What exactly do I do How I do not mess it up And instead of focusing on the exact words or the magic words or any of that nonsense, what's so often vital and what's so often needed in trying to restore a relationship.
Is two ways. One is patience and the other is perspective. You see, in any kind of relationship it hasn't evolved, it hasn't exploded over night. It didn't end instantly and it's not going to be restarted instantly because there's a lag time of human emotions. And so when somebody is pissed at you and so they breakup with you, you gotta let that time to get over that. You try to go back and you know you try to fix everything quickly and you're only making it worse. So patience is needed. The other thing is needed is perspective. And.
Perspective to realize that this is NOT the final stroll that just because you guys have broken up doesn't mean that this is the end. Because NOT. People's emotion's change and our emotion's change. I mean think about somebody who you used to be really pissed at or used to be best friends with and then got pissed at and then became friends with him again. You see we're very flexible, emotional. What happens though is after you've been dumped, if you become inflexible and you would become very rigid and very demanding. And you want.
To have it now and you need to have it now. Then you don't give the relationship or your ex the space, the room for them to get over whatever is bothering them and then to allow a relationship to recreate. So keep in mind if you've just been dumped and want to get back with your ex. One check out my system because it's awesome and you'll love it. And two, maintain patience and perspective. Those two things along with some strategies that we talk about in the M3 system will carry you so so far and bring you ultimately to.
Key Peele Text Message Confusion Uncensored
BEEN TRYING TO REACH OUT TO YOU ALL DAY. ARE WE ON FOR TONIGHT sighs JEEZ. WHAT YOU CAN'T CATCH ME. YOU CAN'T CATCH ME. I'M LANCE MOORE. TOUCHDOWN, BITCH. WHAT PAUSE. phone chimes OH, SHOOT. KEEGAN'S BEEN TEXTING ME. SORRY, DUDE, MISSED YOUR TEXTS. I ASSUMED WE'D MEET AT THE BAR. WHATEVER. I DON'T CARE. phone chimes SORRY, DUDE, MISSED YOUR TEXTS. I ASSUMED WE'D MEET AT THE BAR. WHATEVER. I DON'T CARE. WHATEVER. I DON'T CARE WHAT THE FUCK IS HIS PROBLEM DO YOU EVEN WANT TO HANG OUT.
DO YOU EVEN WANT TO HANG OUT OH, THAT'S CONSIDERATE. LIKE I SAID, WHATEVER. LIKE I SAID, WHATEVER FUCK THIS GUY. JESUS, YOU. ARE FUCKING PRICELESS. AWW. YOU'RE THE. ONE WHO'S FUCKING PRICELESS THIS M THIS MOTHERFUCKER HERE. OH, HE WANTS TO OKAY, MMHMM. MMHMM. OKAY. YOU WANT TO GO. RIGHT NOW HMM. GUESS I COULD DO THAT. clears throat OKAY. OKAY, LET'S GO HE SAID OKA OKAY, LET'S GO ALL RIGHT, YOU KNOW WHAT YOU KNOW WHAT YOU WANT TO REALLY. DO THIS NOW KEEGAN, YOU NUT.
YOU'RE NOT PUTTING ME OUT. FUCK YEAH, LET'S DO IT OH, YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE! FIRST ROUND'S MINE. OH, NO! OH, NO! THERE AIN'T GONNA BE NO ROUNDS, ASSHOLE! IT'S GONNA BE A FUCKING STREET FIGHT! THIS SON OF A 'CAUSE TONIGHT WE GONNA PARTY AND THE PARTY DON'T STOP YOU! BUDDY! LIKE I SAID, FIRST ROUND'S MINE. A BEER AND A GIMLET FOR MY PARTNER RIGHT WHAT'S THAT UH, II GOT YOU A BASEBALL BAT WITH NAILS IN IT. FOR MY POSTAPOCALYPTIC JACKIE ROBINSON COSTUME.
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The first time I saw her, everything in my head went quiet. All the tics, all the constantly refreshing images, just disappeared. When you have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, you don't really get quiet moments. Even in bed I'm thinking did I lock the door yes did I wash my hands yes did I lock the door yes did I wash my hands yes. But when I saw her, the only thing I could think about was the hairpin curve of her lips or the eyelash on her cheek the eyelash on her cheek the eyelash on her cheek.
I knew I had to talk to her. I asked her out six times. In thirty seconds. She said yes after the third one, but none of them felt right so I had to keep going. On our first date, I spent more time organizing my meal by color than I did eating or talking to her, but she loved it. She loved that I had to kiss her goodbye sixteen times, or twentyfour times if it was Wednesday. She loved that it took me forever to walk home because there are a lot of cracks.
When we moved in together, She said she felt safe, like no one would ever rob us because I definitely locked the door eighteen times. I'd always watch her mouth when she talked when she talked when she talked when she talked when she talked. When she said she loved me, her mouth would curl up at the edges. At night, she'd lay in bed and watch me turn all the lights off and on and off and on and off and on and off and on and off and on and off.
She'd close her eyes and imagine that days and nights were just passing in front of her. Some mornings, I'd start kissing her goodbye but she'd just leave because I was making her late for work. When I stopped at a crack in the sidewalk, she just kept walking. When she said she loved me, her mouth was a straight line. She told me I was taking up too much of her time. Last week she started sleeping at her mother's place. She told me that she shouldn't have let me.
Get so attached to her, that this whole thing was a mistake, but how can it be a mistake that I don't have to wash my hands after I touch her Love is not a mistake. It's killing me that she can run away from this and I just can't. I can't go out and find someone new because I always think of her. Usually, when I obsess over things, I see germs sneaking into my skin. I see myself crushed by an endless succession of cars. She was the first.
Beautiful thing I ever got stuck on. I want to wake up every morning thinking about the way she holds her steering wheel. How she turns shower knobs like she's opening a safe. How she blows out candles blows out candles blows out candles blows out candles blows out candles blows out candles blows out now I just think about who else is kissing her. I can't breathe because he only kisses her once. He doesn't care if it's perfect. I want her back so bad, I leave the door unlocked.
What I Wish Someone Told Me About Having Sex
I thought I knew everything there was to know about having safe sex. I thought I knew everything there was to know about having safe sex. Always carry a condom and never, ever get pregnant. But I guess what I needed more than a dental dam was a mental dam, because I just can't stop thinking about you. People love to talk about how to avoid STIs of the physical kind but nobody likes to talk about the STIs that can destroy your mind. The ones that can have you tossing and turning at 3 AM,.
Raking your brain and constantly wondering was I not good enough for him Was this just suppose to be a one time thing or, my favorite one, how could I be so stupid, enough to let him in My sister always told me that my body was a temple so never let a man in that doesn't take the proper time to worship you, because you are a goddess that is truly worth sacrificing for. I only wish that I had taken the time to listen to her more often. But instead, I chose to listen to you,.
And that would've been okay if it weren't for the fact that your love for me was untrue. Because you liked someone else when you said that you liked me too. Then deception turned into a matter of perception and everything started to feel like fifty questions, except at the end of the day I was still left guessing, and this asshole kept testing my patience. But my mama said patience is a virtue, and you said baby I'd never want to hurt you , but you did. You fucked me over and left my brain impregnated.
With your bastard babies called memories. It was all fun and games when I let you up in me but now you won't even take joint custody. It took all but two texts to get you through my door but let me text you about some child support. Just an honest why Because I will never let myself be reduced to some 2 AM whore, creeping out of windows and sneaking through back doors. I will never let myself be reduced to some side chick, just another side dish at the kitchen table,.
For you to pick at while you wait for your main entree, to just being your other bitch. I am a person. I have feelings and emotions that have a right to be protected. Just having a vagina and two tits should not make me any less deserving of your time, or someone to be disrespected. So, if you're gonna choose to be with her over me, well, I guess you have to do what is best then. I guess I just wish that we had taken the time to use both mental, and physical, protection,.
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Break Up With Break Up Break up after break up So tired, I cried I'll never love again I thought I've been through all kinds of love I thought they're all meaningless in the end But not this time Long goodbyes and confusion Somewhere in between, I found you This is it, this is it I can feel it this time I want to be in real love with you now Let's break up with break ups I'm in love with love Let's say goodbye to pain I feel like it will last forever this time.
Hey girl, you asked and I gave you my everything The green light between us but didn't last long Pain is all that's left Love is a crazy thing But you came to me and changed everything I thought about love You're different from what I've seen Can't remember the names of girls I've seen You're so overwhelmingly charming You melt me down This feeling, I couldn't even imagine Everyone's different but the endings are all the same Made me think love isn't all that fun But not this time Long goodbyes and confusion.
Somewhere in between, I found you This is it, this is it You're so different I want to be in real love with you now Let's break up with break ups I'm in love with love Let's say goodbye to pain I feel like it will last forever this time Oh I can feel it, you're different You make me breathless It's like the sun rising in the West That's how impossibly beautiful you are Let's break up with break ups I'm in love with love Let's say goodbye to pain.
Good morning, Hank, it's Tuesday. So I really loved your tutorial about perspective, and in the beginning of it, you were like Hank Everybody write in the comment box no math allowed, no Google searches how long ago you think it was a million seconds ago. John And my immediate thought was That's easy. Twelve years. Of course it turns out that it is in fact, twelve days. I'm not very good at measuring time, as longtime Nerdfighters will no doubt remember. Yeah once I acted as if a minute had a hundred seconds in it it's very embarrassing. Anyway.
All that made me think about perspective, and where I was a million imagined seconds ago, so here's a story. I was twentyfour and my longtime girlfriend had just broken up with me, and I was living in Chicago in what had been OUR apartment with what had been OUR cat. And I was pretty depressed. I thought the depression was a result of having been dumped, but in retrospect, getting dumped was probably at least partly a result of the depression. You know, with its incumbentlike obsessive thinking patterns, and selffocus.
And inability to, like, do anything. Also, I was trying to write a novel, but I hadn't written a sentence I liked in more than a year, and while I did have, like, a great job at Booklist magazine, and wonderful colleagues, and friends, and a great family, I was really losing it. Hank, to give you some context, a lot of days the only thing I would eat or drink would be one 2litre bottle of Sprite, which is a bad nutrition strategy on many levels, including the fact that you lose a lot of weight, and despite the.
Lemon and lime flavoring, y you eventually get scurvy. But before I got to the scurvy point, I called my parents one night, and we all agreed that I needed to come home, so I woke up the next morning, and I quit my job. Actually, I tried to quit my job, but the publisher of Booklist, Bill Ott, was like Why don't you just take a leave of absence for a couple weeks, see if you can get well enough to come back to work. Which, in retrospect, is one of the nicest things anyone ever did for me.
Also, he gave me a note, which I still have to this day. John, I stopped by to say goodbye. Hope all goes well and you're back here in two weeks with an appetite that would put a longshoreman to shame. Now more than ever, watch Harvey. Bill. Bill had been bugging me for like three years to watch this old black and white movie, Harvey, so my dad drove up to Chicago and then we drove back to Orlando together, I got into daily therapy, I started taking a much better medication for me, AND. I watched Harvey.
Now Hank, as you know, I'm very suspicious of epiphanies, because I think people have lifechanging revelations all the time, that turn out not to actually change their lives. That said, all I know is that I woke up the morning after watching Harvey feeling a little bit better, and in all the years since, I have never felt quite as hopeless as I did before I watched Harvey. The movie's about this guy, Elwood P. Dowd, whose best friend is a six foot tall, invisible white rabbit, and there is one line in the movie that I think really did change my life.
Elwood says My mother used to tell me that in this world, Elwood, you must be oh so smart or oh so pleasant. Well for years I was smart. I recommend pleasant. Two weeks later I went back to Booklist, and within six months I handed Eileen Cooper, my mentor, forty singlespaced pages of the story that eventually became Looking For Alaska. Now Hank, I don't want to pretend that everything was rosy. I still missed my exgirlfriend, I was still really screwed up, and those forty singlespaced pages were pretty terrible.
But with a million seconds of perspective or I guess 365 million seconds. I see a life that I am now very grateful to have, beginning to happen. But I didn't know that then, Hank. All I knew was that I was a little less hopeless than I had been. You can't know what an experience will mean to future you, until you are future you. You need millions of seconds of perspective, which ultimately, only time can buy. But until then, there is always the gift of Elwood P. Dowd.
Key Peele Meegan, Come Back
ARE YOU KIDDING ME NO! SERIOUSLY, YOU'VE GOTTA COME BACK IN THE BAR RIGHT NOW. YOU COME BACK IN THE BAR! MEGAN, I DON'T EVEN bleep KNOW CLAIRE! YEAH, RIGHT! I'M SORRY! YOU LEFT YOUR JACKET! YEAH, WELL, WHY DON'T YOU GIVE IT TO YOUR NEW, FAT, UGLY GIRLFRIEND I HAVEN'T EVEN MET HER YET! WHATEVER! YOU LEFT YOUR JACKET, MEGAN! OH, THROW IT IN A RIVER! WHY WOULD I bleep DO THAT I DON'T CARE, I'M OVER IT!.
FINE! sighs GOD. MEGAN! LEAVE ME ALONE! YOUR JACKET, THOUGH! NO! SERIOUSLY, MEGAN! YOU START BUYING DRINKS FOR EVERYBODY AS SOON AS SHE COMES OVER. I MEAN, WHO DOES THAT MEGAN, COME BACK TO THE BAR! YOU'RE LITERALLY AN ASSHOLE! HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE I CAN'T BE AN ASSHOLE. I GOT ARMS AND LEGS AND A HEAD! WHERE'S MY JACKET I HAVE YOUR JACKET! FINE. DO YOU WANT IT NO! YOU KNOW WHA EAT IT!.
WHY WOULD I DO THAT YOU KNOW WHAT I'M NOT FOLLOWING YOU ANYMORE! I'M DONE! FINE! I'M OVER IT! FINE! MEGAN, COME BACK TO THE BAR. NO! MEGAN! MEGAN! MEGAN! UHUH! NO! UHUH! boat whistle blows, bell rings MEGAN, DO YOU WANT YOUR bleep JACKET NO! SERIOUSLY, COME BACK TO THE BAR. YOU GO BACK TO THE BAR. I'M GONNA THROW THIS JACKET IN THE WATER. OH, NICE. THAT'S REALLY NICE. WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO DO, MEGAN DAMN!.
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