Hi, i’m donna barnes. i’m a life and relationship coach and owner of ny dating coach in new York City. In this clip we’re going to be talking about common relationship problems. And the biggest one is failed expectations. I think people expect their partner to have ESP and know exactly what it is that they want and what they’re thinking without them telling them which is ridiculous. It doesn’t mean that they love you any less if they didn’t think of it on their own. If you want something, you need to ask for it. And again that’s ask.
For it, that’s not demand it. all you can do is put out there what it is that you’d like and then it’s up to them to do it for you or not. And then you can make a decision about whether that works for you in the relationship. But you can’t make demands on what you want. And you can’t just expect them to know. A second problem is always wanting to be right in arguments all the time. Doesn’t matter who’s right or wrong, it’s not about who wins. You both lose if that’s the way you’re going to play it. You want; I always say do you.