Can you think of anything more emotionallydevastating than finding out that the person you love is cheating on you with someone else?My name it Michael Griswold from ReunitedRelationships and in this tutorial I’m gonna discuss with youhow to save your relationship after there’s been cheating and the one question that youneed to ask to know whether the relationship is able to be saved. Now listen, I am makingthis tutorial because I know what it’s like. I had a girl that I was dating who I was reallyin to who cheated on me so I know how it feels and I know the damage that can be done. Forme, maybe this is the same for you; I started thinking, you know, quot;Am I not good in bed?quot;,quot;Did I not arose her?quot;, quot;Was I not attractive

to her anymore.quot; And all these things startedto mess with your head and it makes you want to go bunkers but here’s the tip for you ifyou’ve been cheated on and you have to be willing to accept it in order to help you.But if you do it gives you great freedom and here it is. Why ever your boyfriend or girlfriend,husband or wife cheated on you has nothing to do with you. Now, in my situation, thatmight be hard for you to swallow but it has nothing to do with you. In my situation, Ihad been negligent right. I hadn’t treated her with affection. I hadn’t been loving toher and as a result she salted out somewhere else. So even though you know there were thingsI could have done better. There were thing

that I could have done differently and shouldhave, her cheating on me was all on her. That was her decision. I didn’t make her do itand she could have handled it differently. So as soon as I didn’t take it personallylike something she was doing to get at me then it was a whole lot easier. And then thequestion that I had to ask myself, the question that you need to ask yourself is this. Ifyou want to make this relationship work, are you willing to never ever bring this up again?Here’s what happen a lot of times, couples are together, one partner cheats ,the otherone wants to make it work so they quot;forgivequot; and get back together but they always youknow what it’s like you always hold this over

their head, like you always got an ace inthe hole and always a card to play. If you do that your relationship will suck and itwill never be satisfied. You’ll end up breaking up and you’ll end up carrying that baggageinto your next relationship and it will be miserable. So unless you’re able to reallydisassociate, really see that it was not about you, like not take it personally and neverbring it up again then the relationship doesn’t have a chance of working because you’ll alwaysbe playing that card. So how do you be able to get over it and never bring it up again?Well what it take is some.a real honest conversation with your partner and find outyou know why did they do this. And in order

for you to be really good at it you got tobe curious, you know.quot;Why did you sleep with her?quot;, quot;Why did you sleep with him?quot;And really listen and it will hurt and it will break your heart. But better to breakyour heart than to have it sealed off and closed and never to be able to be broken again,never be able to be touched again. So what you have to do is listen right. Why did youdo this? What were you feeling? What was that going to give you? What did you feel likeyou would get out of it? And all of these things gives you clues as to why they weredissatisfied. And then you determine is this something that can be remedied and are theycommitted to being faithful. Now you can’t

do anything about that. You can’t make thembe faithful and you can’t make sure that they don’t and you can’t like check in their phoneor stalk them or anything like that. You have to come to this conclusion, quot;Am I going tobelieve them?quot; and if you’re not then save yourself the trouble but if you choose tothen act that way and if they proved to you that they’re not worthy being trusted thenyou should end that relationship because its just a waste of your time. But sometimes wedo make mistakes and as painful as this is its you know it’s just a mistake. And If canyou see it that way and not take it personally, if your relationship is worth saving thenyou really can save it and I know couples

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