4 Ways to Save Your Marriage Prevent Divorce or Separation
Whether your spouse has told you that they’re no longer happy, or you’re simply suspecting that they may soon calls it quits, I’m here to tell you how you can single handedly save your marriage. My name is Brad Browning, I’m a relationship coach, marriage expert, and author of the bestselling Mend the Marriage program. Over the years I’ve worked with many individuals wanting to save their marriage, and one thing I’ve repeatedly encountered is the common belief that one spouse cannot do it alone. Well, I’m here to tell you otherwise. In fact, I have seen many marriages saved when one of the partners takes action even if.
The other has refused to keep trying. Today I’m going to share with you four ways to save your marriage on your own. Number 1: Accept the Situation It’s perfectly normal to have a hard time accepting that your spouse feels the way they do. And a common reaction is trying to convince them that things can get better. However, this is actually the worst thing you can do in your situation. As tempting as it may be, crying and begging for your spouse to give your marriage another chance will not change their mind. Reacting to the news angrily also won’t help. Since.
Your spouse is already past the point of believing change is possible, your desperation will have no impact on your them. Instead, these types of reactions will make you appear weak and out of control. If you want to save your marriage, you will not get there through pity, cruel words, or dramatic actions. It’s okay for your spouse to know that you’re upset about the situation, but it’s more important for them to know that you have control of your feelings. To save your marriage you need to accept the situation and acknowledge that you played a role in creating your marital problems.
Number 2: Build Resilience Once you have overcome the initial shock and accepted the situation at hand, you then need to create a plan to save your marriage. Start by building strategies to take care of yourself, and find a way to maintain a positive outlook. If you can do this, then you’ll eliminate the one thing you don’t want to do give your spouse more reason to want to leave you. Focus on staying positive, maintaining your dignity, and taking care of yourself emotionally, physically and mentally. Everyone has a different way of doing this, but find what works for.
You and and manage your emotions. If you’re interested in learning more about managing your emotions and devloping an action plan, visit my website MarriageGuy and watch the full length tutorial presentation. I also offer 1on1 coaching, so if you’re interested in finding out more about it and my availability, visit MarriageGuy coaching. I’ll be sure to put both URLs in the tutorial description below. Number 3: Commit to Change You know that popular saying, â€œBe the change you want to seeâ€¦.â€� Well that’s exactly.
What you need to do to save your marriage. Look closely at your behaviour in the relationship. Ask yourself in which ways you can change to create positive responses from your spouse, and what behavioural habits your spouse reacts negatively to. Whether you know it or not, you and your spouse communicate in a revolving stimulus a â€œresponse pattern,â€� if you will. What you do and say is the stimulus. Your partner’s reaction is the response. And then you react to their reaction and so on. The same thing occurs when your partner does or says something. Over time, the two of you have developed a.
Pattern of habitual actions and reactions. When the stimulus changes, the response will also change. This means that changing your behaviour will impact your partner’s reaction, and overall the entire relationship. For example, if you have developed a habit of speaking disrespectfully to your spouse, they will have also developed a kind of reaction or coping mechanism. If you stop acting disrespectfully, then your partner won’t need to use their coping mechanism. If this happens enough, a new pattern of behaviours will emerge. Assuming the new actions and reactions are positive, the relationship will take a turn for the best. Once you create positive interactions.