What to Do If Your Wife Wants a Divorce And Save Your Marriage
You’re happily married and things are going great. Or so it seems. Then, unexpectedly, your wife hits you with some shocking news: She wants a divorce. The announcement hits you like a ton of bricks, and suddenly you feel like a helpless child. But before you throw in the towel or say something you’ll regret, let me share with you my four big tips for preventing divorce with your wife. Hi guys, Brad Browning here and I want to thank you for joining me today. As a relationship coach and author of a program that teaches readers how to save their marriage, preventing divorce is a hot topic for me. So, let’s get started. If your wife comes to you asking for a divorce,.
Chances are she’s past the point of trying to work out your problems or asking for things to change. She’s feeling exhausted, and to her, your marriage is lost. For you this news may comes as a shock. Sure you know there have been problems but you didn’t think things were that bad. Well, now is your time to take action. If you want to save your marriage and convince your wife not to leave you, then it’s time to step up to the plate and make some changes. Before we get started I want to say that while it may seem impossible to save your marriage without the cooperation of your wife, I’ve helped many people in your situation. It’s true you can’t control your wife’s decisions,.
But I have seen amazing things happen when even just one person in the marriage begins making some positive changes. So without further adieu, here are the four things you can do to prevent a divorce. Number One: ACTIONS The most important piece of advice I can give you, is to not overreact when your wife tells you she is unhappy. As hard as it may be, you must stay calm. It’s perfectly okay for her to know that you’re upset and scared, but you need to keep control of your emotions. It’s true that humans have a natural instinct to pursue their needs and wants, but in situations like these where emotions are running high,.
There’s no room to act on instinct. Screaming, begging, hysterics, name calling, retaliation, blaming and abuse are things that you can’t take back. This kind of behaviour push your wife further away and make you look pathetic. At the end of the day you want to be proud of your actions, not ashamed of them. Simply put, you have two choices. One, you can be angry and wallow in self pity, or two, you can choose to love your wife through this difficult time. Even if your wife is stubborn and unresponsive, that’s okay. Just because she’s turned out the lights on your marriage doesn’t mean you can’t still shine. If you really want to prevent the divorce then you need to take the high road and commit.
Yourself and your actions to saving your marriage. Number Two: COMMUNICATION Developing great communication skills can be a powerful tool for overcoming issues in your marriage. However, communicating can be particularly tough when your wife is done with talking. No matter how hard it is to get your message through to her, at no point should you belittle, threaten, ridicule or manipulate your wife into changing her mind. Remember, your words and actions are your greatest allies right now, so keep them in check and in control. To help with your communication, try this quick exercise.
Begin by reminiscing about when you and your wife first got together, how you met, and what you enjoyed doing together. You probably kissed, cuddled, talked nights away and made love at every opportunity. You thought she was funny, smart, and interesting. You fell in love with her because she made you feel good. Try and capture those feelings again. Next think about your wedding and how excited you both were in the days that followed. By recalling these types of memories you’ll be able to reset your focus on what is important in your marriage, and find ways to communicate these messages to her. Over time, you and your wife have built a pattern of habitual actions and reactions.
Meaning how you act influences how she reacts and vice versa. Making a change in your behaviour will mean a change in your wife’s behaviour. If your new actions are positive, the relationship and your wife’s reactions can also take a turn for the best. In order to save your marriage without your wife’s help, you need to look honestly at your own behaviour and assess how you can change it to keep your wife. You can only change yourself, but in doing so, you will also change your relationship. Number Three: COMMITMENT Saving your marriage is going to take a lot of hard work and determination. Sometimes you will backslide and you may even try things.
How to Save Your Marriage And Stop Divorce Complete Guide for 2015
Hey, it’s Brad Browning here and I’m a marriage and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. And in this tutorial, I’m going to teach you how to prevent separation or divorce and save your marriage. This is obviously going to be a huge topic and I’m going to cover as much as I can in this tutorial. So sit tight and be sure to watch this entire clip, because I’m going to teach you things that most couples will never know about building a loving marriage. First of all, let me tell you who this tutorial is for. This tutorial is for people whose husband or wife announced that they’re no longer happy in their marriage. You may have heard.
Painful things like, â€œI’m just not happy anymoreâ€�, â€œI don’t love youâ€�, or â€œI’m leaving you.â€� Or, maybe they’ve already left you. No matter the case, I know how extremely difficult, stressful, and heartbreaking this situation isâ€¦ and I know how hopeless you might feel at this very moment. So I’m going to start off this long tutorial by telling you that there IS light at the end of this long tunnel. With the proper guidance, help, and attitude, it is possible to turn your marriage around despite how adamant your spouse may be on divorce. I know this because I’ve seen thousands of so called â€œhopelessâ€� couples turn it around â€“ and I know exactly how they did it.
With that being said, rebuilding a broken marriage is a rocky road. Sometimes, things can get a little worse before they get better, and it takes a lot of devotion on your part to make things better. However, I promise you that if you watch this whole tutorial and follow my advice very closely, you’ll have the best chance possible of rebuilding that marriage you and your spouse deserve. But before I get into what TO do to save your marriage, I first need to tell you about what NOT to do. The vast majority of married couples that I coach commit almost all of these very damaging mistakes. And I know that some of you might be in a situation where your spouse.
Isn’t willing to work on the marriage, but in a minute, I’ll tell you why that’s okay, and why it’s even more important for you to learn these common mistakes before you go down the road of rebuilding a newer, happier marriage. Some of this stuff you may already know, but it’s important to remember these mistakes before you cause any further damage to your marriage â€“ and these are tips that will have an immediate impact on your relationship. I like to call these mistakes my â€œBig Marital Mistakesâ€�. Big Marital Mistakes 1 â€“ Initiating needless conflict with your spouse. When you’re trying.
To fix a broken marriage and you’re feeling desperate, chances are things can spiral out of control very easilyâ€¦ (and I think you know what I’m talking about). You think that if you could just talk to your spouse about all your problems and find common ground, your marriage will magically fix itself and get better. But usually, this isn’t the case. While communicating with your spouse is important in rebuilding a marriage, what your marriage does NOT need right now is another argument or fight. Even if your partner says something antagonizing or wants to bring up a touchy sticky issue at the moment, do your best to.
Avoid conflict politely. Don’t ignore your spouse or discount any of their concerns, but you need to ensure that the discussion doesn’t end up in a screaming match. You can say something along the lines of, â€œI know this is a real concern right now and I want to resolve this issue, but can we discuss this later?â€� Try and be as nonconfrontational as possible â€“ at least for now â€“ until you learn how you can manage how to handle your arguments later. I’ll get to what I call my â€œDispute Defusing Systemâ€� later in this tutorial. If you have any questions or concerns about this common mistake, please be sure to ask questions in the comments section below. I’ll do my.
Very best to get back to you as soon as I can. The second â€œBig Marital Mistakeâ€� is begging and pleading, or being highly emotional. Especially in public. I know that when emotions are running rampant, people tend to say or do things that they’ll inevitably regret. I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about. At certain times, your spouse may say or do things that will make you feel angry, upset, or saddened, you must do your very best to control your emotions. Showing these negative emotions will only make matters worse â€“ and unfortunately, doing so will only help you sign those divorce papers even sooner. So for now, it’s extremely important to try and remain calm and live.