How Darwin Can Save Your Marriage
We are designed by evolution to be titillated by erotic novelty, males and females. Given that evolutionary design, it's completely predictable that 10 years of the same thing, whether it's the same music or the same food or the same sex partner, is going to lead to resentment, discomfort, whatever. It'92s going to lead to a diminishment of passion, certainly. So we start with that and then we add to that the notion that we're taught that that shouldn't happen, that if it does happen there's something wrong with you or something wrong with your relationship.'a0.
And so people aren't expecting that to happen, and so they interpret that diminishment of passion as a failure. The point that we're trying to get across in the book is that it's not your fault. It's not your partner's fault. It's the fault of the clash between the sort of animal we are and the sort of society we've designed. And as long as there's that conflict between our biology and our societies, there are going to be these problems. So a harm reduction approach might make a lot more sense than this sort of absolutist approach that a lot of people take where any.
Infidelity, any, you know, my husband looks at porn, that means he doesn't love me anymore. I mean, these sorts of responses to very natural behaviors cause a lot more problems than they solve, I think. I think if marriage is going to survive as an institution, it's going to certainly have to continue adapting to the realities of human nature as opposed to trying to shoehorn human nature into some predetermined shape. The point of marriage is that you want to get old with someone. You want to share your life with someone. Maybe you want to raise children with someone. You want.
To have a certain stability and trust that you couldn't possibly get with shortterm relationships. That's the point of marriage. And by imposing this expectation of sexual exclusivity for 40, 50, 60 years, we're cutting ourselves off from those really important things for something that's essentially trivial. Sex really isn't really that important. It's not that big a deal. And by making it such a big deal, we sabotage things that really are important, these primary relationships.'a0 We have children going through divorces, victimized by the psychological trauma of divorce, over what.
Over what That mommy or daddy had sex with someone else Who cares The problem is, much like the war on drugs, the problem is that we take this absolutist approach to something that people are always going to do. People are always going to smoke marijuana. People are always going to drink alcohol and coffee and whatever. But we make these arbitrary judgments on what's acceptable and what isn'92t, that have nothing to do with the actual harm that anything of these things could cause to people. So we throw people in prison for, you know, growing a marijuana plant on their windowsill.
It makes no sense it causes much more harm than just letting people do what they want to do. And really, whose business is it if a couple decides that they're going to, you know, allow a little casual sexual behavior on the side, especially if, as Dan Savage argues, and I agree, it takes the pressure off the relationship. If the door's open a little bit, you don't feel trapped. It doesn't mean the door has to be swung wide open, but, you know, the fact that it's open a little bit doesn't mean that the.
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My name is Cheri Wireman. I'm from Quincy, Illinois. I'm going to tell you the story of the day that I nearly killed my husband. We had bought a new washer and dryer. My husband surprised me by doing a load of wash. He never does wash. When I went to take it out of the dryer, I discovered that the white enamel lining was covered in black ink. Obviously, he had forgotten to check his pockets. I was furious. I thought, maybe Google can save your life. So I went to the computer, I typed in ink stain dryer, and.
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Hi, this is Laura Turner, and I'm going to talk to you today about how to save a marriage. Really the most important part of a marriage is communication and the knowledge of what's going on in your partner's head. In order to save your failing marriage, I would say the first thing that you ought to do is to sit down with your partner and discover what the problem is by talking with them. And I've also heard, and I have also done this myself when I've had disagreements with my partner, is you can actually, even if you're very angry.
With them, you should take the other person's hand and actually initiate contact while talking about these difficult things so that you don't stand up and fly and run off screaming. Make sure that you have that physical contact there, that will remind you that this is somebody that you love and somebody that you need to work these problems out with. So while you're talking, touch each other. Next, all along physical contact, if you are having trouble in your marriage because there is no more sexual intimacy, actually sit down with your.
Partner and try to communicate what you need from them, that you want to initiate physical contact again, that you need to, and actually make a concerted effort on both of your parts to be intimate again. Next, if you're having trouble communicating with your partner, if you've really tried and nothing is really working, I would suggest going to a marriage counselor, or getting some sort of a mediator who is a third party who's someone you don't know, that doesn't know you well, that doesn't have anything invested in whether or not your.
Marriage survives or fails so that they can actually help you to communicate with each other because that's really what a mediator does. It's not so much that the mediator or the counselor is going to save your marriage for you, but they are just going to help you to save it yourselves. And finally, in order to save your marriage, you have to make your marriage your number one priority in your life. In my opinion your relationships with the people that you love should always be on your highest priority list because really.
The Guardian Movie Review JPMN
Released in late September 2006, and directed by Andrew Davis this $80million dollar film only earned $15million in profit. Kevin Costner and Aston Kutcher star in this actionadventure drama film that focuses on the life and training of the United State Coast Guard's elite rescue swimming team. Neal McDonough, Melissa Sagemiller, and Clancy Brown round out the supporting cast with commendable contributions, but the real focus on this picture is Costner and Kutcher. Costner is an extremely proficient rescue diver, capable of saving everything but his failing marriage. Whereas Kutchner is the hotshot trainee more focused on breaking.
Swimming records than saving lives. Both men are brilliant in their respective teacher student roles, bouncing off each other with charged performances, especially in one emotional scene where Costner opens up about his troubled past, advising his protg, Save the ones you can. The rest, you've got to let go. Bookended by positively thrilling rescuesequences on the turbulent seas in the Gulf of Alaska, the majority of the picture is your typical boot camp story. as we watch a group of promising cadets go through every test of endurance and skill to prove their readiness, as only 280 make the cut from a pool of ',000.
The 1'minute feature doesn't break any new ground during this middleportion, but it's competently executed with effective use of Trevor Rabin's horyheavy score and some brisk editing. With one lone exception however, the requisite training montage was stylistically, but curiously, filmed on lowdefinition tutorial. An impressive chunk of the water scenes were filmed in a giant indoor pool built specially for this production. but its incorporation is so flawless, you never notice. The pacing of this picture never feels slow, but it does seem to contain a bit too much story for its own good, the middle training academy portion.
Honestly could have been its own standalone movie. What Top Gun is to fighter pilots, this fun and rewatchable experience is to the US Coast Guard. The PG13 rated adventure is capped off with a beautifully resounding epilogue that definitely stayed with me. Although fairly predictable and formulaic, this is a wonderful film that will make you laugh, cry, and of course, appreciate the real men and women who serve around the world. The Guardian , Longwinded, but occasionally inspiring. Here's my final score. a SEVEN. Although fairly contrived and familiar, this picture.
Chinese man jumps to his death after shopping fight with girlfriend
Ancient Chinese proverb say your girlfriend spend all your money at the Golden Eagle mall, you go kill yourself. Well, it goes something like that. A Chinese man in Xuzhou was shopping with his girlfriend when he decided to call it quits, literally. Eyewitnesses say the 38yearold could be heard telling his girlfriend that he already had more bags than he could carry, but she insisted on getting some new kicks. He replied that she already had enough shoes, more than she could wear in a lifetime and it was pointless buying any more.
This caused his girlfriend to flip out and start shouting at him and accusing him of being cheap and ruining Christmas. The argument ended when the boyfriend threw all the bags on the floor and climbed over a 1.5m rail alongside an elevator shaft and jumped. The man hit Christmas decorations on his way down before hitting the floor seven stories below causing shoppers to scatter. Police say the incident is still under investigation and are looking for the girlfriend. In retrospect, maybe he should have just broken up with her. Or was she really that annoying.
Koreans reluctant to spend despite recordlow interest rate
Its Savings Day here in Korea. and as it turns out. more Korean households are saving instead of spending despite interest rates that are at a record low. Shin Semin outlines some of the reasons behind the trend. More and more Koreans are keeping their wallets closed. and building up their savings instead. A recent report by the government and the Bank of Korea shows that the net savings rate for households was over sixpercent last year. an increase of three consecutive years. The net savings rate indicates the ratio of.
Money households set aside from their disposable income. So why save up more cash especially when the nations key interest rate is at an alltime low Im not married yet so Im saving up a third of my salary for a wedding later on. Im saving every penny so I can buy a house. The countrys rapidly aging population and a tighter job market has also prompted many to start saving up. Even though consumer spending has picked up in the recent months the looming uncertainties over the Korean economy are prompting Koreans to save for later.
On top of that Koreas gross national income fell zeropointone percent in the second quarter of this year. compared to the same period last year. indicating people are spending less to save more. Some even see the trend as a failure of the governments efforts to spur domestic spending including a 19andahalf billion U.S. dollar stimulus package. and a decrease in the consumption tax as the central bank kept its key rate unchanged for four straight months at a recordlow of onepointfive percent. But experts say that the greater savings trend does not pose massive problems as.
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