Marriage Counseling Rebuilding Trust in a Relationship
Hello my name is Reka Morvay. I'm a psychologist and I'm going to talk to you about rebuilding trust in your relationships. If trust has been lost in your relationship for any reason it is very very important to make some effort and spend some time trying to rebuild this trust. The number one way to rebuild your trust is to rebuild your credibility and what this means is to make sure that your spouse knows what to expect from you and then deliver. So if you promise that you will call at one o'clock then make sure you call at one o'clock.
If you say you are going to be home at 6 p.m. then make sure that you are home at 6 p.m. In other words try to make your actions fit with your words. When you are trying to rebuild trust these little things, making sure that what you say matches what you do are the building blocks of that trust. It is also very important to show your partner that they can count on you. So try to find out how you can help them, how you can support them, and offer any and.
Marriage Relationship Advice How to Get Past Infidelity
Hi, I'm Patti German and I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist here in New York City. In this clip we're going to talk about how to get past infidelity. Infidelity is one of the hardest problems in a relationship, and it may not even be getting past it. It's understanding, number one, whether you want to stay in the relationship. And if that is important, then we have to understand together what happened to cause infidelity. What caused the partner to stray What responsibility does each person have in it The person who.
Was betrayed is the one who's hurt, and we have to listen to what that hurt feels like. And the person who is not loyal has to be able to understand how deeply the hurt goes in betraying the relationship and has to listen to what their partner is saying about what it did to them to hear how, how hurtful this was. This is, staying loyal in a relationship is what a marriage is really about. So when this gets violated, it's very, very hard to get past it very quickly. It takes a long time to work through the hurt. And again,.
How Darwin Can Save Your Marriage
We are designed by evolution to be titillated by erotic novelty, males and females. Given that evolutionary design, it's completely predictable that 10 years of the same thing, whether it's the same music or the same food or the same sex partner, is going to lead to resentment, discomfort, whatever. It'92s going to lead to a diminishment of passion, certainly. So we start with that and then we add to that the notion that we're taught that that shouldn't happen, that if it does happen there's something wrong with you or something wrong with your relationship.'a0.
And so people aren't expecting that to happen, and so they interpret that diminishment of passion as a failure. The point that we're trying to get across in the book is that it's not your fault. It's not your partner's fault. It's the fault of the clash between the sort of animal we are and the sort of society we've designed. And as long as there's that conflict between our biology and our societies, there are going to be these problems. So a harm reduction approach might make a lot more sense than this sort of absolutist approach that a lot of people take where any.
Infidelity, any, you know, my husband looks at porn, that means he doesn't love me anymore. I mean, these sorts of responses to very natural behaviors cause a lot more problems than they solve, I think. I think if marriage is going to survive as an institution, it's going to certainly have to continue adapting to the realities of human nature as opposed to trying to shoehorn human nature into some predetermined shape. The point of marriage is that you want to get old with someone. You want to share your life with someone. Maybe you want to raise children with someone. You want.
To have a certain stability and trust that you couldn't possibly get with shortterm relationships. That's the point of marriage. And by imposing this expectation of sexual exclusivity for 40, 50, 60 years, we're cutting ourselves off from those really important things for something that's essentially trivial. Sex really isn't really that important. It's not that big a deal. And by making it such a big deal, we sabotage things that really are important, these primary relationships.'a0 We have children going through divorces, victimized by the psychological trauma of divorce, over what.
Over what That mommy or daddy had sex with someone else Who cares The problem is, much like the war on drugs, the problem is that we take this absolutist approach to something that people are always going to do. People are always going to smoke marijuana. People are always going to drink alcohol and coffee and whatever. But we make these arbitrary judgments on what's acceptable and what isn'92t, that have nothing to do with the actual harm that anything of these things could cause to people. So we throw people in prison for, you know, growing a marijuana plant on their windowsill.
It makes no sense it causes much more harm than just letting people do what they want to do. And really, whose business is it if a couple decides that they're going to, you know, allow a little casual sexual behavior on the side, especially if, as Dan Savage argues, and I agree, it takes the pressure off the relationship. If the door's open a little bit, you don't feel trapped. It doesn't mean the door has to be swung wide open, but, you know, the fact that it's open a little bit doesn't mean that the.
Marriage Counseling Online Relationship Counseling Online via Skype
Welcome! My name is Peter Strong, and I am a professional online therapist. I provide online therapy via Skype for individuals and for couples. I provide Online Marriage Counseling in which I work with each person separately, usually, to help them identify and overcome patterns of emotional reactivity. These reactive loops create a great deal of conflict and stress in relationships, as you will be familiar. So it is very important to find the emotions underneath that are fueling these reactive loops between both partners. And, by changing your relationship with these emotions you can begin to break free of them and establishing.
More positive ways of being with each other. So, that's what Mindfulness Therapy is all about. It's about learning how to break free from your compulsive emotions that drive emotional reactivity. And this is essential in order to begin to establish freedom in the relationship where you can discover how to relate to each other, how to love each other effectively, without being controlled by these habitual patterns of emotional reactivity. So, if you are interested in online marriage counseling, please visit my website and contact me, and we can schedule a session in which I can work with both of you, first of all,.
Individual Therapy Learning to Trust Again
Hi I'm Patti German and I'm a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist here in New York City. In this clip we are going to talk about how to trust again. Trust is a feeling of being committed and being safe and I think the most important way to start trusting again is to trust yourself and to be able to rely on your gut feelings of what you might be feeling about whatever the situation is. So trust is important to have in a relationship but of course the most important beginnings are in trusting yourself and relying on what you.
Marriage Divorce Is a Cheater Always a Cheater
I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources. Today we're talking about if a cheater is to be or not to be. Specifically, is a cheater always a cheater. This is really a tough question to answer because it really depends upon the character of the individual and the situation that the individual's in. Many people can get caught up in a situation and have a one time affair or cheat and really be done with it. It's really something that they hadn't planned. People cheat for different reasons and have a different rationale. But in a net,.
Net the affect is the same on the partner who understands what has happened. Now a person of integrity generally will be very honest about what has happened and be open in the relationship and talk about, well, I messed up, this is what happened and it's not going to happen again. And so when you have somebody that's respectful like that who knows that they breeched trust and wants to rebuild the trust, then typically you can respect that person as a person of their word, integrity, even though they made a mistake, this is something.
That they want to work on to rebuild the relationship. On the other hand, some cheating requires an investment and plan. And when you have somebody who's actually working a plan to cheat then it's a different situation. This person is probably going to be selfish, really thinking about things, well, what's in it for me and what can I get, how can I take advantage of the situation And typically this type of person will be prone to these bad behaviors and will continue this line of action and something that you really want.
To stray away from. So once you recognize that cheating is there, the trust is destroyed, and trust is something that takes a long time to rebuild if ever. Because sometimes that level of trust can never be attained. And trust is equivalent to love and importance according to some surveys of some very very successfully married couples. So, recognizing it takes time and years perhaps to rebuild the relationship and trust, you really need to go with your gut. What type of individual is this that you are with Can you build something.
Marriage and Family Therapy Improve Your Marriage, Improve your Relationships
Do you need help with yourself, with your marriage or with other relationships Do you want to feel the love and the happiness that you once felt before Hi welcome to Laguna Beach Counseling. I'm glad that you're here. My name is Kay Wenger, and I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist as well as a professional clinical counselor. Along with my private practice for the past twenty years, I have worked as the manager of clinical training at a major university educating prospective marriage and family counselors. My passion and goal is to help you achieve a more.
Satisfying relationship with yourself and with others. I specialize in premarital counseling, couples counseling, if you have areas of grief and loss, anxiety, depression or having difficulty with teens, I can help you. While we can't change difficult situations from the past, or completely erase things that have led to a troubled relationship in your life, we can work together to better understand and resolve challenges that have existed in your life. Please take the time to browse my website. I encourage you to read more about my background, my experience.
And my approach to therapy. My Laguna Beach office, provides a calm and relaxing atmosphere. It is just few hundred yards from the ocean. Often people have been thinking or talking about struggles in their lives for a long time. But they have not taken any steps towards resolving these issues. The time for you is now. Finding a counselor that you can trust is crucial. And if you are on the fence, about moving forward, I can offer you a free 30 minute consultation. I look forward to speaking with you soon.
Marriage Divorce How to Make a Marriage Work
I'm Joe Cuenco, with Family Resources. Today, we're going to be talking about mechanics of a long term relationship, specifically, how to make a marriage work. This requires a joint effort and commitment, and of course the most important things are, do you have the right fundamentals Is there love Is there trust Is their friendship Is there communication And is there mutual respect Because if you don't have these things, that's really the tenets that have to be worked on. It's going to require communication, to really understand, what it takes to make each other happy. A dialog needs to take place, and kind.
Of evaluate where you are. Specifically, it requires developing a plan to know what it takes to make either the husband or the wife, happy. Realistically, you need to understand, are you doing the little things for each other And also in terms of the big things. It's always nice to have surprises, to be catered to, maybe getting coffee in the morning, maybe getting a martini at the door, when you come home from work. Also little surprises, the text messages, which make sure that you are thinking about one another, that there is.
Love there, that is being cultivated, and also cultivating the friendship. The other thing that's important, is do you have mutual fun Do you do things together, that build not only the friendship, but also the fun in the relationship, and continue to build the overall love in marriage Dr. John Gray gives some good advice here. He's written many books on the subject. There are many marriage education workshops, that are available. Many books to help couples understand, what it takes to build a successful relationship, but it requires communication first of all, and making sure that you understand, what.
Marriage Relationship Advice How to Be a Good Husband
Working our relationship skills. Specifically we're going to learn today. How to be a good husband. I'm Joe Cuenco with Family Resources. What is the best way to become a good husband. Basically you're going to have to tell your, this conversation and have it with your wife because it's really going to be particular to her personalty. There may be some things that she really likes or wants that are special to her. That makes her feel good as a individual. For example she may want you to cook dinner for her one day a week. She may want you to.
Manage all the household finances or help out with the children. You know on particular days. Give her an evening out with her friends or just give her some quiet time. So you really need to understand those. Those interaction fundamentals that are really key for her. In addition the five key attributes dimensions of relationship. Love, trust, respect, friendship, communication all those are real key and if you really need to understand those more deeply. Then I would suggest that you attend a Family Resources or similar workshop, marriage education.
Actually Dr. John Gray has some good advice here. You may recall him from The Venus and Mars books. Very worthwhile. There are some little things that you could be doing also. To help spice up the relationship. Are you buying your wife chocolates From time to time. Are you buying her flowers Are you sending her a text message at work I miss you. I need you. Rubbing her feet. Putting gas in her car. These are all things that say. Hey, I'm with you I'm paying attention. Your the most important person in my life.
I love you. But you also have to come to is some agreements and compromise. For example you know in the bedroom. You may have to have the conversation that we're going to have less sex than I'm use to and probably a lot more than you use to. But we need to come to an agreement. So it really becomes an issue of communicating. Not compromising but on agreeing how to share some of these relationship dimensions. That are really important and key. You need to be prepared to give but if you give you'll ultimately will receive. There.
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